I'm assuming that she is a girl, and trust me, it's not hard to get sex if you're a girl. Even if you're the ugliest troll ever, there's a still a guy horny and desperate enough for you. It's finding someone to actually love and treat you right that's hard.

I wasn't just saying that from a girl point of view. From a guy suffering a breakup.....

#28, perhaps back in the day that was true, but there is plenty of thirsty females out here now. I believe men and women both have the same problem now. We both need someone who actually cares about us, not just a body to hump.

Or maybe she has tried masturbating and just couldn't manage to make herself ******.

Wait, I thought she meant first ****** with her boyfriend. To think about anyone never having one, even on their own, just blows my mind.

I knew before I even checked your profile that you're a man. Masturbation is very different for men and women. Guys can get off easily, all they need is a hand. Women need physical AND mental stimulation. I masturbated a LOT before I lost my virginity, and of course it felt good, but I didn't have a real ****** until I became intimate with my boyfriend. Since then I've learned how to get off with a vibrator, but I still can't ****** using only my hands.

I know it's different, 19, but I also know that plenty of women are able to do it. And I do realize that, 16, that's my entire point...that fact is what blows my mind. I don't understand how someone can go into sex without being able to explain what they need to their partner. It's like flying a plane blindfolded, yeah?

But based on these replies I think you're all misunderstanding me. I'm NOT criticizing her for not having an ******. I DO know that some women just can't do it. My point is that I can't imagine the stress of having a 'first' with another person. That just seems so wildly scary to me. Not a criticism. It's an observation and then also empathy.

I find this thread very easy to ********** to.

I have never masterbated in my life. I feel no need because my boyfriend has always been there to do the job. I guess it took time for him to figure it out, but now he can get me to ****** in less than five minutes. I guess I just dont understand because I dont know what it is like.

haha flying a plane "blindfolded"

I agree. It seems pretty damn weird to me too. I also don't get needing a vibrator, and not being able to just use your hands.

not everyone is the same. for me personally ot took me until after an ****** with my boyfriend to manage it alone. i experimented a lot but kept stopping before the main. dont know why maybe because you dont know what it feels like until you have one. i can use my hands but a vibrator is so much better.

All women are different. I can give myself the most amazing ****** by myself, but sex can't give me as powerful of ones, and its such hard work to reach it. Shoot, I feel bad for the women who can't ****** at all...

I can't give myself an ****** with my hand, but can if I use toys on myself. My boyfriend can bring me to one easily with his hand, mouth, whatever. Mind you, he can get different angles with his hand that usually works better for me.

Have fun, Doc!

Ah yes. The FML circle jerk.