i don't know about you, but i personally dislike being treated as property and would be extremely angry if my fiance asked anyone but me permission to marry me. my parents, although allowed to show concern or joy, do not get a say in who i spend my life with.

It is the OP's wedding proposal,not her dad's. He doesn't have to ask for permission from anyone but those who are part of the relationship. Wanting to gain approval of family members is fine but it's not mandatory. Their relationship shouldn't depend on a third party's decision just because of tradition if they don't want to keep it.

Different people have different views, as seen on the FML about this a while ago. I'd not marry somebody who asked for my Dad's permission/blessing.

it's pretty standard to ask. if the dad says no then you don't have to listen. even if the parents were okay with it they would give him shit for not asking. permission refers to him being allowed to ask for her hand in marriage. not to snatch her away. educate yourself.

But I don't want anyone else to be involved in it, even if it is just for tradition. A relationship between 2 people means the decision is theirs, then together they tell family they're engaged. Obviously the person asking may tell someone sure to nerves/wanting help picking a ring, fine, but not asking someone else if it's OK.

My husband never asked for permission and I wouldn't want him to I'm the one that has to spend my life with this person. Also what if you ask the parents and they say yes but your girlfriend says no that's awkward. I didn't even walk down the aisle with my dad I'm the only person that could give myself to someone else. To be clear my parents are still together and I love my dad, but I wanted to go by myself.

I agree. I am not a child and I don't need to get my fathers permission to do anything, let alone get married. Quite frankly, his opinion doesn't come into play when I get married. Asking for permission is basically implying that a grown woman needs to be allowed to marry, rather than being able to decide for herself.

okay. 94. enjoy not being a child. inter family politics are important. learn your way around them so they aren't a problem later.

great I used the wrong word. permission and blessing are essentially the same except the demographic for this app gets butthurt about permission because they're mostly 'independent'

**** his blessing, I don't need that either! Why would I care if he approved or not? If you're going to do it either way, why ask?

if he says no and she says yes then you've gone against his wishes.. you know what they say, better to seek forgiveness than ask permission