Boyfriends are usually temporary? Then how do you explain fiances and husbands? There's no possible way they could have been a long term boyfriend prior to that, right? I mean, I'm sure most people go *points* "THAT'S THE ONE!" chase them down, and marry them on the spot!

Some people try... *shudder*

Steff, technically speaking, dating relationships *are* usually temporary, since people tend to go through many more boyfriends or girlfriends than they do spouses. I agree with this poster's main point: that one shouldn't make long-term decisions based on a relationship that isn't yet more committed than the boyfriend/girlfriend stage. I'd add a caveat for those who don't plan to marry or legally can't, as long as both parties are in agreement about the relationship status and the decision, and it won't foster resentment. It sounds to me like that wasn't the case here. The long-term implications of OP's decision may have, in fact, freaked the boyfriend out, and prompted the break-up.

JaneDoe took the words right out of my mouth, as she usually does. :) #79: You're only short changing yourself if you build long-term decisions on a relationship that can be just ended with a simple "let's see other people," because what do you have when that person does decide to leave? No boyfriend AND no money to pay the bills, so to speak. There are plenty of other people that OP could have dated (and had a better relationship with apparently), but how many excellent job opportunities come up in this economy?

Hrm, well for all you know, they could have been discussing raising children together and getting married. Some people follow their heart as well.. some people actually like being in love. I agree OP should have discussed this job with her bf, ask if their relationship was strong enough and was heading somewhere for her to make the right decision.

Discussing getting married and having children and actually having them are two VERY far apart concepts, I discussed these things with my ex-gf(Notice the "ex"), that doesn't mean anything at all, he could've been cheating on her from the beginning of their relationship for all she knows and I'm sure that most people that cheat for example aren't decent enough to admit it to you when you ask them "if the relationship is going somewhere". I'm just giving examples here, my point being is that most people like the OP end up hating the person that they ditched everything for, either because they break up a while after or because they resent the other person for somehow "making" them turn the opportunity down (in their minds). And you shouldn't trust anyone, no matter how much you think you love them or you think they love you back, trusting anyone besides your parents (and in some cases not even them) is pretty much useless and you'll get hurt over and over again.

^^I agreed... till I got to the second paragraph. Congrats, good_times, you get the Cynic Of The Day award!

Dude, seriously, not everthing is fake you know. That kind of situations are absolutely possible in real life, so get that in your head, your life will be a lot better.