Me too 32. Happy B-Day!

I think I love you. Well said.

I think I love you too. very sensible..

Haha, thanks. I learned pretty early on that trying to "deny" sex was dumb. I think I tried it a total of twice on my 2nd bf. (I was like 19?) His response, both times, was,"I went without it for 19 years, I could go another 19." That's also when I learned the valuable lesson that some people don't care as much as I do about sex, lmfao.

All very well, but we don't have any testimony in the FML to support this. The implication is that he 'cancelled' on her, meaning that a set plan was dropped by him. Birthday expectations are all relative- if they both had a whole free day together, if her plans involved other people, if she had something else planned in the evening too. If she'd said she wanted him to spend the day with her, then if he had no pressing obligations (and unless 'the guys' had just got back from Iraq, they're not an obligation), in a normal happy relationship there shouldn't be any problem with either one of them devoting a day to making the other one happy. This FML could mean anything between Today, my boyfriend cancelled the special lunch I wanted us to share on my birthday, just the two of us, to hang with his mates who he sees all the time. FML to Today, I was hanging with all of my girlfriends on my birthday showing off all the things my boyfriend got me, when he abandoned me to go and cheer up his mate whose mum has just died for a short while before return to his devotions. FML I don't see how you can tell which.

Which is why I specified that there are situations in which it's an FYL and there are other's where she needs to grow up. If he did other things for her birthday, she needs to grow up. Yes, it's not too much to ask for one day, but you can't expect it. I agree completely that there is no way to know what was going on. There's also no way to tell if the story given is accurate. There are three sides to every story. Her side, his side, and the truth. I guess I know far too many girls who flip out at the drop of the hat instead of actually talking to their S.O. and asking what's going on. The way the OP writes, "my boyfriend decided that lunch with his guys was more important than spending time with me," leads me to believe she is the type to jump to conclusions. Also, all she said was that he decided to go to lunch with his guys. As far as I know, there are a lot of hours in a day. Lunch takes, on average, one to two hours depending on how long you talk. That means there is a lot more time in the day for them to do something. But, I do acknowledge that we don't have enough information. He could have been an absolute asshole about it, or he could have already had plans with his "guys." She could have made plans without consulting him, and got upset when he couldn't follow through with them. Hell, he could be lying to set up some kind of surprise party for her. I wrote that if he did nothing for her birthday, it's absolutely an FYL. If his plans for what they were doing on her birthday were simply different from what she wanted, that's on her. I mean, most of my bf's have done special things on my birthday, but I don't usually expect them to spend all day with me. If they do, that's wonderful. If not, that's ok.