By anony - 24/05/2016 12:57 - New Zealand - East Tamaki

Today, my boyfriend's mum begged me to stay with my boyfriend because she says I'm the only one who can actually get him through college and into a decent job. FML
I agree, your life sucks 12 714
You deserved it 1 040

Same thing different taste

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deathstroke990 22

that's not a reason to stay with him, him getting a job in the future isn't your problem do what you needa do, OP

Common knowledge: The only one who can change a person is themselves. He'll choose what to do, regardless if you stay with him or not. Do what's best for you and I hope the best for him too.

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deathstroke990 22

that's not a reason to stay with him, him getting a job in the future isn't your problem do what you needa do, OP

agreed! She is not his mother or nag!

That is not your responsibility. Your boyfriend needs to man up and his mom needs to not pressure you into staying with him if you don't feel the relationship is right for you.

Classic loser definition... Start running away and don't look back

Common knowledge: The only one who can change a person is themselves. He'll choose what to do, regardless if you stay with him or not. Do what's best for you and I hope the best for him too.

I totally agree but sometimes some one (in this scenario OP) might be that persons motivation to change :)

That's definitely true too, sometimes people inspire others to change. It's how everyone grows to begin with, or so I think. So it's nice to be that person, but sometimes (In OP'S case) you have to let go and hope they find something else to inspire them or pull through it themselves.

Mathalamus 24

it isn't up to you. abandon your boyfriend.

His path in life shouldn't really be heavily weighed on you. You should be with him because you want to and it makes you happy. It should not be a responsibility of yours to mother him into a decent lifestyle. That's completely inconsiderate of his mom to put you in such a position.

zeffra13 31

As hard as it might be, he needs to learn to want to achieve things for himself, not to please others. Stay with him if you actually want to, not because his mom is trying to put the blame on you if he doesn't succeed.

If you're not wanting to leave him, then stay with him of course. But don't feel bad if the relationship isn't working out...just leave. If he's one of those I-can't-live-or-get-a-job-without-you-babe, then the relationship most likely won't last long, because you'll be playing the role of a mother rather than a girlfriend.

what about just check with him for like once a month I think it will help

Lol what is she? His caregiver? His mother? Guardian? I understand what you mean but it really should not be her responsibility. He needs to learn and figure out how to live and make good decisions as well as bounce back from the bad decisions on his own without full dependency of others around him. He needs to stand on his OWN two feet. If she wants to HELP him, it is 110% okay but it should not be a duty of hers to check up on him.