By Myyrh - 16/06/2015 01:48 - Switzerland - Basel
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Yaaaaaay it got publiiiished ! :D Hi everyone, OP here =) Time for explainations ! We've been in a long distance relationship for one year and a half. So when he came to my place, I made him meet my family and friends because I was so happy to be with him, but when I came to his place, I never met anyone beside his brothers and parents (I still haven't met one of his brothers who lives far away from both my place and my bf's place). My bf lives in a small village, his friends live somewhere else and so we could not randomly run into them either. At first it pissed me off that he didn't want to tell anyone (even our friends who knew both of us), but then he started to be ok with it and to tell everyone how lucky he was to have me. He told his very close friends though, but the other ones never knew about me. For those who say I should find someone else : before meeting me he was with a girl during 5 years and that time his family didn't know about her, on Facebook he was even acting like "if you know a cute girl, intoduce her to me, you know I'm single" etc, whereas I managed to make him remove the "single" from his profile page (now there is nothing, it's not written "in a relationship" either but at least, other girls won't see he's "single" anymore) and I was the first girlfriend he ever brought back home and introduced to his family. So I'm kind of a big deal ;) Tha main reason he didn't want to tell his friends is because he doens't like people to know about his private life, but also because he is tired of people gossiping. Also I never insisted too much on meeting his friends because I am really really really shy and was ok with not having to meet people I didn't know but who had known my bf for years. By the way, his friends were mad at him for not telling them for one and a half year, but he said it was his choice and he was ok with it. And finally, I was not really complaining, but people here had the same reaction as some of my friends, and I thought it was an... original situation ! =) So, there you go !
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being private and pretending to b single r 2 diff things, ure in denial n hes likely cheating
You haven't met his friends in the year and a half that you've been together?? Weird.
That must've hurt.
To be perfectly honest, I'm one of those people that doesn't get told anything first hand. I always get news and gossip second hand, and often well after the fact. It's not because I'm bad at keeping things quiet either, there's plenty of things I haven't divulged (even under pressure) because the person trusted me to keep it a secret. I guess I'm just "that guy" who is always out of the loop.
My ex did that to me. It never said "in a relationship with kayla" but it never said single either. He claimed it was because he "didn't want people gossiping" and "didn't want people to know his personal business." No. It was because he was screwing around with three other girls, one of which I became best friends with after learning. And nothing healed the heartache more. We shared every time he was with the other, and lying to us. And it really fueled the fire and helped me get over it. Yes his mom & 2 brothers knew about me, but no one else. At the time I was 17 and naive. So from experience, he was probably cheating. Maybe he's shy, but even so, he should be happy to have you. Hope it works out for the best whatever way it goes OP!
I don't get how stories like this get past moderation. Your boyfriend's friends didn't know you? That's ******* it? Kill yourself.
You deserve someone that is proud to show you off and tell the whole world about. You deserve better then that
i am usually a very slow person to realize that somebody is a couple but a year and a half?! Never mentioned you at all? I expected a little bit of love joy talk should have happened :<
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I don't really buy this. It seems to me that he's the sort of person who doesn't want others to know of his relationship so that he can still act like he's single when he's out with his friends. And the previous thing with his ex on Facebook just proves this in my opinion.
No you are not a big deal. When a man truly falls in love he'd want everyone to know. He'd be grinning from ear to ear telling his friends and family who has been making him happy or he would "casually" slip a mention of you in every conversation he has. When a man falls in love you would know. They would know. Even if he chose to only tell the most important people in his life, people around him will notice. Which is not the case of your boyfriend. He isn't just a "private" person. He's just keeping his options open by not telling everyone about you. And one more thing. He's still single on Facebook. He just set his privacy settings so you won't see it.