By Myyrh - 16/06/2015 01:48 - Switzerland - Basel
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Yaaaaaay it got publiiiished ! :D Hi everyone, OP here =) Time for explainations ! We've been in a long distance relationship for one year and a half. So when he came to my place, I made him meet my family and friends because I was so happy to be with him, but when I came to his place, I never met anyone beside his brothers and parents (I still haven't met one of his brothers who lives far away from both my place and my bf's place). My bf lives in a small village, his friends live somewhere else and so we could not randomly run into them either. At first it pissed me off that he didn't want to tell anyone (even our friends who knew both of us), but then he started to be ok with it and to tell everyone how lucky he was to have me. He told his very close friends though, but the other ones never knew about me. For those who say I should find someone else : before meeting me he was with a girl during 5 years and that time his family didn't know about her, on Facebook he was even acting like "if you know a cute girl, intoduce her to me, you know I'm single" etc, whereas I managed to make him remove the "single" from his profile page (now there is nothing, it's not written "in a relationship" either but at least, other girls won't see he's "single" anymore) and I was the first girlfriend he ever brought back home and introduced to his family. So I'm kind of a big deal ;) Tha main reason he didn't want to tell his friends is because he doens't like people to know about his private life, but also because he is tired of people gossiping. Also I never insisted too much on meeting his friends because I am really really really shy and was ok with not having to meet people I didn't know but who had known my bf for years. By the way, his friends were mad at him for not telling them for one and a half year, but he said it was his choice and he was ok with it. And finally, I was not really complaining, but people here had the same reaction as some of my friends, and I thought it was an... original situation ! =) So, there you go !
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Well, at least he finally told them? I don't see why it was necessary for his friends to know you were dating him.
meli1195
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maybe the bf didn't want to introduce her sooner because he wanted to make sure it was a lasting relationship
This is weird that you did not notice before... Did you not ask yourself after all this time why did you never saw his friends ?
Friends ?
what is wrong with you!? do you expect him to wear a badge with your name written on it?
leogachi
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It's not like she expects him to tell strangers about the wonder that is Myyrh.
17- I don't think it's unreasonable to expect your partner's friends to know that you exist after a year and a half of being together.
CharlesEmersonW
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I think you're overreacting, but if it's so important to you, maybe you should ask him why exactly didn't he tell them. Although the only people who matter in a relationship are you and your partner. Besides, maybe he doesn't think they are important enough to meet...or who knows what.
my thoughts exactly, i don't think it's a big deal i rarely get to see my close friends and that's because they live in other state's, we all went to college together. i rarely talk to them so if i didn't have a girlfriend already they would never know I'm dating someone but when we meet is like we never left each other. and no i do not have a Facebook account to change my status ave key the world know, but my girl so means the world to me.
Ru- well, just talk about it.
OP, this guy doesn't deserve you. He's clearly not proud to have you. If he was, his friends would've known about you before you even got together.
Or maybe he's just the introvert, private kind of person who doesn't need to share his personal life with everyone. There's nothing wrong with that. Don't jump to conclusions.
I don't know, if I weren't to tell my friends something I would either deem it not that important or forget about it.
Guy arent like girls who tell every detail of their lives to the girlfriends. We keep our business to ourselves.
Not all girls are like that either. Just because in movies you only see blabby girls, it doesn't mean they're all like that. Some of us are private people.
I think it's weird that people are talking about how 'men don't tell all details like women' and 'what'd you expect, a name badge?', because that's a totally different subject. To notify people or to tell them ALL about it and every aspect of it. To me it seems normal to tell people, especially good friends, when you're in a relationship. Just that is enough: no details, no stories, just that information. On that note, I do find it weird that you never insisted on meeting anyone; on birthdays, at parties, holidays, things like that (or even when shopping). Unless your boyfriend never attends those get-togethers, in which case I wonder if you spend all the time together with just the two of you. If that's the case you can't really be mad I guess.
Honestly I think he wasn't sure if he thought it was worth bringing up (hear me out). I think he was seeing how it went first, or none of his friends asked him until just then, which is what I do, unless the subject is brought up I won't mention it
Sure, but after a year and a half? You don't think any of his friends would have brought up dating or girlfriends at any point over the course of an entire year? You don't think he'd have figured out whether the relationship was lasting or worth mentioning by at least the one year anniversary, if not sooner? Just seems odd to me...
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I don't really buy this. It seems to me that he's the sort of person who doesn't want others to know of his relationship so that he can still act like he's single when he's out with his friends. And the previous thing with his ex on Facebook just proves this in my opinion.
No you are not a big deal. When a man truly falls in love he'd want everyone to know. He'd be grinning from ear to ear telling his friends and family who has been making him happy or he would "casually" slip a mention of you in every conversation he has. When a man falls in love you would know. They would know. Even if he chose to only tell the most important people in his life, people around him will notice. Which is not the case of your boyfriend. He isn't just a "private" person. He's just keeping his options open by not telling everyone about you. And one more thing. He's still single on Facebook. He just set his privacy settings so you won't see it.