Dont tell him! play this out like an episode of Punk'd

Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials! Don't let the turkeys get you down!

Don't let him walk you down the isle. He isn't worthy of being called your father at all if he left "because he thought you might be gay".

Seems like you didn't lose much once that prick left. I hope your wedding is everything you wish it to be!

What a poor excuse of a man. Congrats on the wedding, OP.

I am in Tennessee as well, I have seen quite a bit of that towards some of the people we are friends with. It's the bible belt hun, it's bound to happen unfortunately. Congratulations on the upcoming nuptials though :)

Sorry hun! I feel you. I have back ups for my own absent father in case he doesn't show up for my wedding in the near future. My brother made the comment of why wouldn't I expect him to be there. Well, he wasn't present for hospital trips, high school graduation, Basic Training graduation, or even College graduation, why the **** would I expect him for my wedding? If I didn't come from a traditional southern family, I wouldn't give him the option at all, my mom was aghast that I wasn't planning a father/daughter dance... Hang in there, you're not alone for dead beat dad's OP! If you even want to have anyone give you away, and you're own southern family doesn't object, ask a male relative (I was thinking my cousin or my step father) or even your mom! Don't let his awful nature bring you and your wife down! Congratulations and eternal love to you both! :)

Erhh maybe its good to first have a beer together sometime ;)

So don't? She obviously didn't think you needed to be there, and you should be true to your feelings

I can relate my dad is out of my life for being human scum as well; you're a better person for it. Congratulations on the wedding and I wish they two of you health and happiness.