WTF? What a nasty thing to say! You should let him come down, dress up, then proudly introduce him to your partner ! on second thought, tell him to **** off and have a nice life.

*hugs* you'll have a wonderful wedding without him.

He can either be a loving and caring father and accept you for who you are and do it anyway or be a bitch about it and go back to how he was. Hopefully the first. Some parenting he's done.

Could be worse. I have a friend whose alcoholic father she hasn't talked to in over a decade found her and keeps trying to start a relationship. He once put a cigarette out on her arm...

**** him. If he was deserved to walk you down the aisle, he wouldn't care if he was walking you to a man or a woman. And #29, shut the **** up. Don't you EVER tell someone that they "could have it worse." That is so insensitive it isn't even funny. OP is completely entitled to be upset and hurt about a shitbird father who abandoned them and can't accept their sexuality. Just because they're not, like, getting beaten and molested and shit doesn't mean their pain isn't valid.

"We've only invited close family and friends, you aren't invited. My partner and I won't miss you." Maybe mention any back child support owed to your mother and pass on his contact information to her so she can contact the proper agency/attorney in getting it back (if she is owed any, of course).

He should do the lottery with those predicting skills

Give him the wrong address. When he contacts you during or after the wedding, make a joke about him always being misguided or something. Basically, tell him to go **** himself.

There is a time to repair relationships. During a wedding is NEVER a good time. Chances are, this is already resolved, but in case it isn't, you can tell him that you already had promised someone else the honor of walking you down the aisle, explain that it's because he's been so distant, and perhaps even explain that he wouldn't like your fiancee anyways due to her being a woman (presuming that you yourself are a woman). And if you *want* to repair your relationship (and it's perfectly fine if you don't, you have no obligation to even try), ask to talk to him some time after the wedding in a public place, like a restaurant.

tell your dad to **** off and ask why he feels like he has a right to take the fathers role of walking his daughter down the aisle if he didn't act like your father by staying and supporting you. Hope he's not invited.