By Alex - 05/02/2016 22:55 - United States - Elizabethtown

Today, my fiancée woke up from a nightmare where I cheated on her. She has so far successfully gotten into my personal and work e-mails, and all my social media. I'm not sure if I'm worse at picking a wife or at picking passwords. FML
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PaulChristie 13

Women know everything. Don't you know that? If they want information they will get it!

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UnidentifiedFun 37

When someone feels threatened by something they will put their investigation skills onto hyper mode - you might want to invest in some new passwords tbh if she's finding out everything.

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dragoongirl90 34

While she did overreact and shouldn't be going through his stuff, he should also not care if she does. If someone cares about their mate going through their things like email and such, then they have something to hide and that's never good. Usually means she was right to think that in the first place.

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ChibiChibi_fml 27

Uh no, just because you are together with someone or getting married does not mean you suddenly lose all rights to any sort of privacy. If she is so distrustful of her fiance that the only way she'll get over this nightmare is by going through his things than she shouldn't be getting married yet. It would piss me off to find my guy rummaging through my emails and such without having asked me because it is essentially saying 1. I don't trust you enough to allow you the same privacy I have and 2. You're not allowed any surprises. Saying your partner has the right to go through all your belongings just because you are together will just create a life consisting of scenarios like: Oh your receipt for my birthday gift is in the email I just decided to rifle through? Too bad, guess I know what I'm getting now. Oh there's paperwork regarding a medical issue you weren't quite ready to discuss with me because you didn't have ALL the information yet in your dresser? Too bad we're going to talk about it now. You have a diary where you write down your thoughts and feelings so that you can work them out, get them straight, and possibly realize that you may be thinking of something the wrong way? Well that's just peachy keen because now we're going to discuss why you felt slighted three years ago because there is three pages about it so it must still be worth arguing about. Honestly ask your self if you would feel honestly comfortable to coming how to your spouse holding your personal journal and demanding information about one of the entries? Would you be happy to come home and find out that they found a gift you got them and opened it up just to make sure it wasn't proof you were cheating on them? TL:DR version Don't go through your partner's things without their permission, it is never acceptable and only acts as proof that you are far too immature/distrusting to be in the relationship in the first place.

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askullnamedbilly 33

I have had conversations with dear friends of mine over email, social media and my phone that contain private information about me or those friends that no partner of mine has any business knowing. Just last week, for example, a friend opened up to me about battling depression and an anxiety disorder. If someone I dated read through this stuff without my permission (especially because of something as ridiculous as a dream) I would feel extremely violated and would probably consider ending the relationship right there. Being in a relationship does NOT mean you lose the right to be an individual. Actually, I'd claim that in a healthy relationship, that should be absolutely unnecessary.

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R2Y2 22

Giving up your privacy because you don't have anything to hide is retarded. Privacy raping is for people who won't stand their ground.

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myimmortal2 3

I know that it seems very unhealthy to do. During a three year relationship I never invaded my bf's privacy even though I was slightly paranoid about him cheating. This was until I was in his email trying to find an email I'd sent him when another popped up...I ended up finding out he'd been cheating on me for just over two years with several different women on Craigslist. I can't help but understand where the fiancé is coming from because I only wish I had looked sooner.

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DoomedGemini 37

Stop trying to push your experience on them. It doesn't ******* matter you were cheated on, this girl had a DREAM and decided to throw all trust out the window. This is a huge red flag for abusive relationships.

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myimmortal2 3

I'm sharing an experience, not pushing it on anyone. I won't lie, it's extreme for a dream. I can just understand the paranoia

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masterminor 16

What she should have done was talk to you. or if she was really distrusting of you and wanting to be sneaky she could have borrowed your phone, taken it to the suspect home wrecker's house, and seen if your wifi connected.

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swtcontradiction 11

Or just the first part since that's the sane thing to do...

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Dale_shackleford 13

This comment section is basically the opposite of "boys will be boys".

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Mathalamus 24

She seems to be very insecure. Have a serious talk with her about acceptable boundaries, and her complete lack of any right to invade your privacy, for any reason.

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apcsox 18

Clearly she doesn't trust you man. You better unfiance her and get away now. This will only get worse. Trust me. I was as faithful as one could be and was with someone who was the same way, come to find out her insecurity about me was because she was screwing around on me with multiple people over our 11 year relationship.

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DoomedGemini 37

"Whatever makes him happy, let him do it" change the pronoun and that suddenly seems really bad and rapey doesn't it?

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Mahcookiez 15

Well if you haven't done anything wrong then you don't have to worry but you should still change them passwords

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