By Alex - 05/02/2016 22:55 - United States - Elizabethtown

Today, my fiancée woke up from a nightmare where I cheated on her. She has so far successfully gotten into my personal and work e-mails, and all my social media. I'm not sure if I'm worse at picking a wife or at picking passwords. FML
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PaulChristie 13

Women know everything. Don't you know that? If they want information they will get it!

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UnidentifiedFun 37

When someone feels threatened by something they will put their investigation skills onto hyper mode - you might want to invest in some new passwords tbh if she's finding out everything.

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madethis2comment 5

I'm like your fiancee. I've never actually tried to get into any of my boyfriend's accounts, but I have those sorts of nightmares all the time and it takes a lot of willpower for me to not just start guessing his passwords or whatnot. I have trust issues because of a previous long-term relationship where it turns out I was the other woman (well, one of five if you can believe it) the whole time, and none of us knew about the others until the end (because of course we all split when we found out). That guy was an awful person who was really good at hiding his awful, and since then I can't hardly trust anyone in a relationship. I've been in a steady one for years now and my first reaction with him (as wonderful as he is) is not a trusting one. If she's like me, best thing to do with your fiancee is to show her you have nothing to hide, tell her to tell you instead of snooping when she finds something that gives her pause, and then when she does tell you those things, show her you have nothing to hide AGAIN. Eventually she'll either learn to trust you (it'll be gradual) and you'll get fewer requests, or you'll both realize it's nothing doing and end the relationship. Just remember please that not everyone who's insecure in their partner's fidelity is insecure because they themselves are a cheater.

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derperbear 8

He should not have to show her anything.no one should be punished for what past partners have done to their current partner.

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Catdragon 40

And how is that a punishment? If you view that as a punishment then you shouldn't get married. Marriage is all about two becoming one. There will be a lot of things you can't keep from the other. I mean really if you get married in your twenties and both live to be 80 that's like 60 years of being together in one house. Marriage is a big thing. People can get a divorce, but that's not really what marriage should be for. If you're going to get a divorce in the end then don't get married in the first place. It's easier to say marry me than it is to get a divorce. When you marry a person you accept them for all their flaws and you work with them. If you can't handle everything then don't marry them. We all have things we don't want to share, you can work with your partner about how much you're comfy with sharing but you need to be willing to make compromises. She wants to look through your messages, say you will if you can look through hers or something like that. Reach an agreement, don't just blow up or wait til it resorts to snooping to find out. Once they see everything is fine, I'm sure they will be satisfied. You shouldn't worry if you have nothing to hide. If they're not willing to make a compromise either then the relationship will not work.

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TheAspieDork 27

Damn. Maybe reset your passwords and get a couples counselor if it gets to be a major problem.

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Sandman0351 13

i had a dream were my ex cheated on me...come to find out she really was for half a ******* year..

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Zebediabolical 39

...but crazy is the best sex. And they usually have the best pills, too!

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xDrakeNinja 12

Reminds me of the article where a guy got arrested for rape. It happened in the girls dream... Hope she doesn't get that type of dream...

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quarterweek 13

Having been in the fiancé's situation before, I can understand her feelings. However, I've always just told my boyfriend and had a long conversation about the dream. Usually I end up laughing it off and feel better, not try and hack his email based off of a bad dream. Try talking to her and seeing where this idea may be coming from? I can't imagine it's just a nightmare. Maybe she's having doubts of the marriage or of your faithfulness.

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lmbachman 23

If you have nothing to hide, then you have nothing to worry about. I'm sure it's just anxiety on her part, and once she sees you're innocent, she will calm down. FYL until then, my dear.

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Grenith 21

I think that would be grounds to postpone the wedding OP...

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Shafro_0 24

She's just worried:/ ...but you shouldn't be if you haven't got anything to hide!

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TelevisionMan 18

You need to have a serious discussion with this woman. Getting so paranoid over a dream is extremely unhealthy, and doesn't bode well for your future marriage.

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