By Satch - 16/03/2016 09:04 - Australia - Melbourne
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FML Dear all, this is OP. The world (including the Internet) always shows its true beauty when you need it most. These comments have truly helped me through a tough few days. It's hard to include all the context of a situation in just 300 characters, I guess I consider myself a strong person so I was just wanting to get across the point that I never thought I'd show so much emotion to something like this, regardless how much I truly love her. To add some context when I say "I saw it coming" I meant in the sense of a day not weeks, she'd given me the "We need to talk in person" text earlier in the day. Everyone on here has been amazing, I'm not phased by the "Man up" comments, as I said before there isn't a lot of context in 300 characters, to update you all I'm doing fine. I'll get through this. Life requires us to forgive, forget and move on. I always carry a 'shit happens' attitude and a knowledge that everything will be fine given time. I'm focusing on the positives of the situation, at least now I can date/marry someone with a rich family and a lucrative career.
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redheadedmonster
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It'll hurt no matter what. Even if you think you're ready for it or it was a mutual decision it'll still hurt like hell. You're losing someone who was a constant in your life for 5 years! In this day in age that's quite a bit of time. So even if you didn't say anything OP you were at least there in person and you let her say what she needed to. That's much better than doing it through text, a phone call or any other electronic way you can. So don't worry this too will pass with time.
Romance don't last, if you love her you should have made her your Wife or at least progress onto something. If you saw this coming, you probably didn't put in your best effort to make this work.
You just said romance doesn't last. Sometimes relationships just won't work, even if they are not necessarily "bad". Getting married would do NOTHING to save the relationship, it's idiots with that idea that end up divorcing quickly because they realize it doesn't magically make the relationship happy again. Op offered a chance to try to work on it but as I said, sometimes it just doesn't work.
This logic is so flawed. Romance doesn't last, so get married? Then you're just stuck in a poor, difficult relationship that is even harder to get out of. Love is a complicated and tricky thing, sometimes you just stop loving someone and it has nothing to do with their effort or the relationship itself. No matter how hard someone tries, sometimes feelings just aren't there anymore and it's really powerless to help it. Also, I don't see how a piece of paper and a ceremony has anything to do with love for someone, you don't need marriage to show love, and you don't need love to have a marriage. Also, we don't know the age of the OP, what if they started dating young, at like 18, and they are now 23 or something, and still pretty young for marriage.
lol bullshit. marriage isn't for everyone, some couples are married and last a year. some just live together and last 20+ years. sometimes people just fall out of love and that's okay. it sucks but it's better than staying in a loveless relationship and making everyone unhappy.
That's a hard, painful thing to go through, even if you anticipate it. Listen to the song "walk on by" sometime - it's about what you're going through, understanding and accepting the loss but still visibly hurt by it. Jedi hugs are being sent through the Internet to you.
Dang, that must hurt so bad. Sorry OP
Well of course I'd being shaking and crying after 5 YEARS! That's a long time to be with someone and just to lose feelings? I dont know there might be something else going on too.
Just went through this. You'll be better soon
Same thing just happened to me. I feel your pain. Wishing you luck, op
Better to find out now, then after the wedding.
Same happend to me a week ago. Know the feel bro. Sorry for it.
blackvyper
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Grow a pair! It's not the end of the world!
Shut up! Who's to say he was a coward?
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Even when it's expected, it's always hard to react as you planned when it's something that effects you so much on an emotional level. Hang in there!
I'm sorry bro. Really am. You need a stranger to talk to I'm here