I'm sort of thinking the same thing -- Surprised there aren't any more posts like this one. Why was your "Best male friend" not your husband? How was your relationship before the ultimatum? Affairs don't always need to be sexual -- Were you becoming closer with your "best male friend" than you were your husband?

I agree about having a better relationship with your male best friend than your husband. Usually a friend of the opposite sex can have dire consequences on a relationship. An ex of mine had a male "friend" and though they supposedly never had a sexual relationship the emotional relationship was enough. One time my ex didn't even spend her birthday at my house and was at his the entire day. Talk about some messed up shit. I gave a YDI and a FML since I don't know how you hae been handling the situation

#23 #25 and #27. you should die horrible deaths.

#28 has the idea :)

I hope you're a troll, because that's just stupid logic.

Well maybe he wasn't an asshole in the beginning. If he was, I'm sure she wouldn't have married him. And to the OP: I'm sorry. that sucks. He's a dick. You deserve much better anyway.

#31 you're an idiot. Your spouse is someone that you vowed to stand by for better or worse. If they ask you to give up a relationship with someone of the opposite sex that makes them uncomfortable walking away from the marriage should NEVER be the first instinct. If that's what you do then you should have been married to the friend and not the husband. Once you get married your spouse is now FAMILY and family should ALWAYS be more important than friends. Rant over. OP your husband is an asshole. Assuming he was actually a decent person you did the right thing by respecting his wishes to end what he viewed as an inappropriate friendship. Unfortunately for you your husband is a worthless piece of shit. Make amends with your friend, explain what happened, if he doesn't respect you for valuing your marriage and your husband's wishes when you didn't know he was cheating then he wasn't that great of a friend in the first place and you deserve a better husband AND better friends.

Ok. It's possible that I just have deep-seated issues about controlling relationships (in that controlling people make me want to kill them), but I honestly believe if someone can't trust their partner to have friendships outside of the marriage then their relationship has more problems than solutions.

normally I think a lot of people here are too controlling also, but if someone is really, seriously driving you nuts I think it is ok to ask your spouse to not be with them.

I think it's ok to tell them your concerns, but I don't agree with forcing your spouse to completely sever ties with anyone in their lives.

Put yourself in her shoes. The man she thought she was going to spend the rest of her life with essentially told her she's not good enough and he found someone he'd rather ****/spend time with. Being cheated on is awful, especially if you're cheated on by someone you've committed yourself to emotionally and lawfully. Being cheated on? FYL Paying ridiculous amounts of money for a divorce lawyer? FYL Getting back in the dating game with a shattered ego? FYL Somehow I'd say this is a pretty damn big FML. I know you're probably just a troll, but seriously.