Although I fully promote a healthy life style I have to disagree with you. A parent should not put a child down like that. They're is a much better way to tell your child they have a weight problem than telling them you are embarrassed by them. The OPs physical health may not be too great but, from the sounds of it her mental health is suffering more.

And I have to say that some people are born with the Endomorph body type, and they have a propensity for putting on weight easily...and often their legs are of the shape that they will always touch at the thighs (with feet splayed outwards) regardless of how much fat is on the thighs. Whereas Ectomorphs are naturally lean and bony. As a Mesomorph I have muscular thighs so they touch when I stand straight, and I'm under 110 lbs. So the whole "thigh gap" notion is ridiculous and is down to body structure.

#49 - Remember, pleases, that you are telling a person that they are too fat to exercise (go swimming), so they need to go exercise. Logic, please. If you can't muster up basic courtesy, let alone human dignity, then at least rustle up a modicum of logic. Telling someone they need to exercise, and then telling them they deserve to be berated and forbidden to exercise, because they are too fat to go exercise? NO!