Well, this is a hard one to address. While depression does hurt, and really, makes you feel like there's no Reason AT ALL to be joyful with life- one of the best things to do, I think (and I'm no doctor so, this just my opinion) is to go help out people who are worse conditions than you currently are. People who are already homeless, sick, or starving. Not only does it help your self-esteem by giving you that "good" feeling of having made a difference but also reminds you that you're not at the bottom yet. The secret to beating depression, is not giving into it. Now as for your mother, many mothers can be plain D-bags when it comes to these things. Really, it's likely, that she just wants you to "toughen up" and views depression as just an excuse to mope around, rather than a classification of it. If you aren't complaining about your life or whining to her about it, you should (or rather *I* would) tell her to mind her own business and let you deal with your own problems if she doesn't wish to lend a helping hand. ...If you are complaining (which is unlikely from my encounters with depressed individuals) then, don't do it to her- She might be like me: after a while of constant negativity it'll just bug her to the point where she'll stop sympathizing and just want you to get over it.

your mother is right. Buck up!

Jeez, this is like the fourth depression FML today.

Suck it up princess.

I mostly feel sorry for those grad school rejections. that's time you're never taking back. fyl

OP is not saying she is depressed over these things that have happened. She is saying she has CLINICAL depression (caused by chemicals not events) and ON TOP OF THIS all these things have happened. So basically at a time she needed people or good things in her life they all left. The clinical depression can not simply be willed away, and the other things on top certainly do not help. Even if she fixes these things the clinical depression won't just magically disappear. Point is, with what she was already going through, plus all these things on top, I think OP had the right to be a little upset without someone coming along and mocking her for it. Just because you shouldn't wallow over bad life events does not mean you're not even entitled to be a little upset when they happen. Grief (over whatever) is a PROCESS and needs to be experienced before it can go away. OP doesn't need people making her feel bad for undertaking a natural process. I don't understand why people feel pity at sympathy are things people should never be given/ask for. These things exist for a reason.. you use them to look after someone when they're having a tough time. You don't need to refuse to give it to anybody just because.

Can't really say anything about you losing your boyfriend..and maybe not your job, but maybe you should have gotten better grades in school..haha FYL OP

sorry to hear OP, I hope things get better for you.

I think people are confused. The TC doesn't have a "mental illness" of depression. A mental illness is where, through no outside ailment, causes a mental state in which it is not normal. In the case of depression, if you were sitting around and suddenly you got depressed even though events around you are not so depressive, then that is a mental illness. Then there is the event triggered depression. The kind where, like the TC, is caused by drastic event that may or may not change your life. Such depression are short term and usually are resolved by itself and is a normal reaction to such event. A mental illness of depression is very rare. I would say that for every 10 people who are diagnosed with "mental illnesses," only about 1 actually has it due to no actual event. It can be very tricky and requires medication, but with so much other people crowding the system, these people are typically ignored due to the fact that therapists and other are so busy with other cases, they really can't understand or comprehend a case where an actual mental illness occurs. With that in mind, the TC is responding normally to such event. She needs to bring herself out of it and stop the pity party. It's a good, god honest motherly advice because the more you feel sorry about yourself, the less anything is going to happen. The fact is, after such events, one must think that there is more to life beyond the events that occurs. With such things, one find himself or herself since a test is completed and you faced your failure. That is part of life, which seems to be missing from many people today. Yes, there will be times in your life where everything falls apart. Ask anyone who was born before 1970 and you'll see they can handle it much, much better than anyone else.

well I think that your mum should be more supportive, things will start looking up, ignore the ignorant people on here