It doesn't matter if she asked "mom can I please cry about getting dumped." You are also wrong about her thinking she's self important she realizes that she ranted on and on by admitting to it. Even if she ranted for an hour leave the fing room don't make things worse. She didn't come to us with I got dumped. She came to us with I got dumped and my mom threw a book at me. It wasn't a friend she expected to care about her but her mother. Good god all this YDI is making me actually care about this fml P.s don't have kids

I'm sorry but you have to be somewhat self-important to rant on for ten minutes without the other person saying anything. And unless it's some weighty tome of ancient lore having a book thrown at you is more symbolic of you being annoying than any sort of danger worth mentioning. It wasn't about leaving the room, she specifically went to the room in which her mother was doing whatever and started ranting. If she wasn't being self-important she would have gone to her room or maybe not have spouted off for ten whole minutes about shit no one cares about.

What sort of danger is a slap in the face? It's your teenage daughter what do you expect drama comes with the territory. I understand why the mother flipped, but I don't know why you are condoning it. There is no reason to add insult to injury "it's a phrase don't take it with a stick". Again if you can't take drama DON'T HAVE KIDS! Plus you think this behavior is okay and deserved, that it was even a lesson. The OP won't learn anything in fact what she'll do is cry to a GUY just listening for one reason. Distancing herself even more from her mom, and you wonder why 13 year old girls are leaving babies in trash cans. Cause they are too afraid to go to their fing parents! It's a snowball effect with every battle further away from you and closer to the wolves. If she was over emotional is beside the point even if you think it's rude it's besides the point! You never punish your child for coming to you cause they will go somewhere else.

You're one of those "children require coddling and discipline is draconian" people aren't you? I'm sorry but my parents wouldn't listen to me or my sister bitching at them for that amount of time. You're not being patient and understanding when you let your kid go on tirades like that, you're displaying how weak your authority is. Basically you're telling your child that their problems are all important and trump any and everything else. I know people who have parents like you and they're ******* spoiled brats.

#52, So you're not supposed to listen to your children when they are upset? Yes, you are supposed to show love to your children, sorry to burst your bubble...

If you're kid is making epic speeches every time something relatively benign happens, you're no longer listening to them in supportive manner, they're being coddled.

Have to agree with Pasta on this one. Not condoning the book thing but sometimes when I'm in the middle of doing something the last thing I want is my child giving me a 10 minute emo rant. I have 3 children. Oldest is 7, when she complains to me about school drama, I tell her she is there to learn, not make friends.

I think they both have good points

My parents always listen to me when I'm upset, and they believe strongly in discipline. They're glad I'm coming to them when I'm upset or have a problem though cuz they can do their job as parents and help me find a solution, or comfort me for a little bit... I've cried on my mom's shoulder for almost ten minutes over my best friend and I getting in a serious argument right after my boyfriend broke up with me, then a few WEEKS later got grounded for 3 months. Listening and comforting your kids at times doesn't mean you're a coddling, no discipline parents, it means you're being a parent b

I have no idea what you just said...

"I think that is really mean and I'm sorry that you got dumped. You might do need to learn to be quiet a little bit and don't over speak it..." Yeah, that second sentance is a little odd.

To Iknoweverything: You don't throw a book at someone. Esp. if you're a parent to the victim. And the victim is upset. I think it's safe to say you're socially handicapped if you think that someone not giving you their attention warrants a book-throwing. Good luck with life.