That's how I lost a lot of respect for my parents. I just felt trapped and them watching everything I did, I didn't feel trusted and I want to do my own thing. That's why I'm an amazing liar and that's why I won't do it to my kids. I want my kids to feel like I trust them without worrying. I want them to be able to look things up that they need to without fear of me finding out and trust that with my parenting that they will do what's right and talk to me if they need anything. YDI op.

Yeah, look like...

So when your teenager happens to be chatting with a stranger online, thinking it's another teenager when it's really a pedophile, you won't even be aware of it because you aren't keeping tabs on what they are doing. Way to keep your kids safe, everyone who's saying it's bad thing to keep an eye on things. I remember what it was like when I was a teenager. I will be damned if I let my kids do the kinda stuff that I got away with.

Perhaps don't be a hypocrit, OP. Respecting others privacy no matter their age or relation is important to a healthy relationship. Unless you suspected he was researching bomb making or something, what purpose does it serve you to be that nosey?

Looks like your kid at least knows better than to trust you.

In all honesty, if we new his age it would be easier to judge. If he is in 7th grade in below, then you're in a bad position but if he is in high school area, then let him have his privacy.

You deserved it if you are going To be in his space it doesn't matter if your a parent you should respect privacy

Why are people voting ydi on this? I'm legitimately concerned with this "be completely hands off with kids and wonder why they grow up to be utter jerks" trend I noticed, checking your child's search history isn't super strict or crappy parenting, in this day and age the Internet is as real as the world around and the way they put themselves forth on the Internet can mirror how they put themselves forth in physical interaction . It's not wrong to say "hey, I notice you spend a lot of time on fat-shaming sites, is there something you want to talk about?" You don't have to beat over the head for going to websites you don't agree with, but if you happen to notice them going on some alarming sites like suicide forums or anything of that magnitude, just talk to them it goes a long way.

No kid should ever talk to their parent that way. But Maybe if you respected him he'd start respect you.

YDI you just proved to your child that he cannot trust you. Oh and you're a hypocrite for wanting to punish your son for bad language whilst using bad language. Oh and you won't look like a lying bastard, you'll look like an untrustworthy mother.