let the foul language go. if you found objectionable stuff in the rest of your search, go ahead and discipline him. frankly, Internet privacy doesn't exist. better to show him this before he does something illegal.

I've never had this problem, but then again, i'm the only computer savvy person in the immediate family and i was deleting browser history when dial-up was still your best option.

Huh you broke a promise and its your FML.

I won't claim that parents should never check in on their children's web history, but if you've established that you are going to give and respect his privacy then you have exactly yourself to blame on this one.

"Looking like"?

No, what is wrong with parents these days is not being involved in your child's lives. Yet people are wondering why kids are disrespectful to their parents and elders. growing up my parents looked at computer history, phone if I started getting out of line and let me tell you this, if they hadn't I would of made horrible choices. What's abusive is not being involved. You see this among girls that go online an start talking to "boys" and they go willingly into the car with the boy they haven't met face to face with after a couple days to weeks of emails, texts, and messages which turns out to be a grown man trying to abduct the girl. So if me checking my daughter's history and phone is abusive then so be it at least she won't be raped or worse found in a field raped and murdered. Being the parent that doesn't check those things majority of the time have the kids that wind up in those horrible situations. Being naive is a hell of a lot worse then being concerned and "snooping"

I love your son

he will never learn to be an independent adult if you keep such a tight leash on him.

did he do something to deserve the low amount of trust you have in him? if so, then I can understand, but if not, I would suggest giving him a bit more independence(:

If he was currently being punished for something specific that might be one thing, but since you promised not to do this I'm thinking that's not the case. All you teach him by consistently invading his privacy is 1. How to lie more effectively and 2. Boundaries have no value and don't need to be respected. He might be able to make use of lesson#1 in life, but unlearning lesson#2 is going to be a bitch for his future relationships. Let him grow up without eyes constantly on him, for chrissake. He won't be a kid forever and you won't be around to spy on him forever either. Teach him how to make good choices by TALKING to him.