This is not a problem. If he had said "Wife" then it would have been a problem.

That's a retarded idea.

No.

Who (in their right mind) would believe that?

Okay, and what's your response to the girls on here who say the SAME DAMN THING? I have seen more than one FML from a female about some girl being horny and getting all butt hurt cause the guy wasn't in the mood for sex. In fact, just in the last week there was an FML about a guy that kept sarcastically saying he was too tired, or had a headache, or something along those lines to make a point to his GF that she always does that to him. This road does go both ways.

Amen

I've seen WAY more guys have FMLs about this stuff than girls. It's frankly quite pathetic.

If someone doesnt want to have sex, that's ok; they should then have the common sense not to enter into a ROMANTIC relationship!!

Gotta agree with 63. Relationships generally include sex and unless you told the person beforehand that you can't/won't have sex, it's really their right to get upset over it.

I totally Agree!!!!

agreed, sex is a natural thing.. sometimes a perspn needs a little help with their overactive hormones:P if a girl makes you wait awhile.. well that's alright but if she is totally against doing it.. and you want to well that's kind of an issue

Bieber4 wtf do you know about sex? You're 15...

Men don't want sex just because it's sex. If its a real relationship where he really cares about her, it's for the bonding that comes with it. One-night-stands are one thing. But in a decently long relationship, it's about that connection that will bring them closer

The thing is GUYS, is that you pressure WOMEN into having sex. plain and simple. I understand if you're in a romantic relationship then sex is definitely a component that should be at least discussed if one person is not comfortable with the idea at the moment. BUT sex is not mandatory. So, all you men making seem like sex is an implied thing when in a relationship and that you're entitled to it, is completely prehistoric. and might I add douchebaggery. You men have been trying take away are f*cking rights ever since we got them. Progress with the time jackasses!

122- the thinking that all men have been trying to take away women's rights since they got them is a little dated in itself. If that was the case there would not be women elected in office. Granted, there are some men out there that are chauvinistic, but not ALL. As for sex, the problem usually lies with immature couples. When one wants sex more than the other and they start nagging that they aren't getting enough. Then it starts feeling like a chore to the other person. And nobody likes to feel like they have to do something. It's just not fun anymore when that happens. No, sex is not everything, but it does create and strengthen a bond between two people. As long as you have trust and honesty already in the relationship. If guys AND girls would just let sex happen natural and organically rather than making it a chore for the other then it would probably happen more.

Actually, women wanted the right to have sex with whomever they wanted without, you know, being stoned as a harlot. Instead of blaming men for pressuring women, why don't you yell at the women who gave in? Rape is one thing, but lots of women want to have sex but then want to seem like an innocent, chaste person at the end. Stop blaming men for something as stupid as wanting to have sex, they want it, they should be allowed to have it... with women who also want it.

@142 , I never said all men are like this. In my text I said " all men who think..." I was addressing a faction. I understand what you're saying but my point is a lot of men feel entitled to sex and have since pretty much the beginning of time. There are women who do complain sometimes as men do about their sex life but you rarely hear about women raping men or pressuring them into having sex. You men do have a track record for objectifying women. The original poster is correct by saying it's a woman's body; she can do what she wants with it. When in a relationship, yes, you do need to discuss thiss and it shouldn't be an issue. don't assume that's what you deserve as a partner.

Then women shouldn't act and dress in a way that begs for attention and then whine when men objectify them and expect sex. It's hypocritical and the mixed message causes problems like the ones you're describing.

#122/154-- The way you addressed your comment was so condescending. "You men"? Really? You didn't have to say "all men" for it to sound rude and biased. Would you like it if someone started a comment with "you women"? No. And besides, you say that you're not referring to all men, then you accuse most men of acting the same. Wtf? Please, don't bother calling yourself a feminist. You're embarrassing us. You clearly have no idea what "equal treatment" really means. Your comment about women not raping men is so sexist-- it's because of people like you that male victims of domestic violence, abuse, and rape hardly ever get attention or help. Also, rape isn't the only form of abuse, so please shut up. 1. Not all men constantly want sex. a. Not all men are rapists. b. Not all men pressure women into sex. 2. Yes, it's the woman's body and she has the right to do what she wants with it. HOWEVER, she shouldn't enter a relationship in which the partners want totally different things. That just doesn't make sense. If the girlfriend knew that her boyfriend might want sex in the future, she should tell him whether she will, too (as the OP's girlfriend did here.) 3. There is no evidence that the OP was or plans to pressure his girlfriend into having sex with him. He just sounded disappointed (as you probably would if you found out something equivalent to this about your partner.) 4. Do you honestly think that men are the only ones who come into a relationship expecting certain things? What about the majority of women who expect BOTH equal rights AND chivalry? Women who expect gifts or their boyfriends to pay for things? Women who expect their boyfriends to be open to the idea of marriage? Women who might want kids in the future? You cannot deny that men and women have the same amount of expectations and pressure each other equally. Let's face it, we're all ****** up some way or another. This doesn't make men or women bad people. You don't even know how the OP will respond to this situation, so shut up. (And I'm sure if it had been a girl's FML stating "Today, I found out that my boyfriend of 2 years is completely against the idea of marriage. FML" you would be here sympathizing with her. Seriously people, learn what equality really means...) And to the people who responded to #122/154 in an equally stupid way: 1. Dressing provocatively doesn't justify rape, it just means the rapist has no self control. However, women who dress provocatively should be aware that guys are going to look at them in a certain way. 2. No one should have to be pressured into doing something, so it's not fair to automatically put all the blame on someone for giving in. 142 and 155 are brilliant. That's all. :)

You have the right to remain silent, anything you say can and will be used against you.

Someone still is a virgin. Sex is an important role in a relationship. Even woman get upset when they don't get it. Don't push it all on the men.

163- if you weren't so young I would be in love with you...not because you called me brilliant but because: 1. You are intelligent for your age. 2. You stand up for what you believe. And 3. Because you called me brilliant. ;)

63, you are a gods damned idiot. Romantic and sexual are not synonymous.

@184, Your response to the other woman proves my point exactly. You're hitting on her if you have no clue what I'm talking about. People's responses to this are sad and make me sorry for humanity.

Um. The last time I checked, saying if you weren't so YOUNG I would be in love with you is not hitting on someone. Paying them a compliment, yes. You are just upset that nobody agrees with your ridiculous comment. Sorry for humanity due to FML comments. A little dramatic don't you think?

oh please. I don't care if people agree with me or not. I know where I stand and I believe that I'm right in what I'm saying. just because people minus my replies doesn't make me feel any different. Defend yourself if you want but saying " if you weren't so young id be in love with you" and then adding a winking smiley symbolizes a flirtatious comment to me. Whatever, not the point. I wanted to address the really long comment by that young girl. she states that I'm condescending by saying "you men" but when you read her reply she insults me many times telling me to shut up and that I'm a disgrace to feminism. She's like 5, meaning she has probably never had a sexual experience before and not to mention hit puberty yet. It makes it invalid. and that's a disgrace to humanity that people actually feel this way and defend it with such idiotic replies.

209, You haven't addressed the actual points made, rather you're just bitching about how you've been picked on. Thats the equivalent of just responding with tl;dr. The fact is, there is nothing anywhere that tells us relationships should not involve sex. So to suggest that men are doing something wrong in wanting to be sexually active, or even women for that matter - or is it your opinion that the only people with rights in the bedroom are women? - is absurd and baseless. Given that we know the vast majority of relationships actually do involve sex, it would make more sense to assume that this IS a part of a relationship unless stated otherwise. I'm sure you wouldn't be too impressed if somebody was in a relationship with you and didn't explicitly state beforehand that they are going to **** every other girl who looks at them sideways, do you think this is because the standard is set by the majority? Do you think the individual in question needs to address this point before entering into a relationship? These are really basic concepts that a child could grasp.

#209-- First, if you knew about how the body develops, you would know that puberty generally starts several years before 16. :) Also, you're right, I'm a virgin; however, that has nothing to do with whether I'm right or wrong. Yes, I was being condescending. However, I was different from you in that I was condescending only toward YOU based on your IDEAS, not your gender, age, race, etc. as you were by being condescending toward all men. Do you see the difference between bias and just disagreeing with/disliking an individual? Yes, I insulted you, but I did at least respond to the points you made. You have, so far, only insulted me, not responded to the points I've made. And you misspelled "aujourd'hui" in your username. Twat.

171 id like your comment but its to big

Why do you have to have sex to be in a relationship? Some people value their virginity and possibly save it for their future spouse. Or some people want to make sure that whoever they have sex with is going to stay with them. What if "virginkiller"s girlfriend is a young girl? You must be young and daughter-less. I think you'll value sexless romantic relationships someday when you reproduce.

209- If someone walks into a bar or club dressed in barely anything, they are advertizing to drunk people they want sex. If a girl's thong rides above her shorts and her boobs are popping out, she is advertizing sex. If you don't want to play the game, there are plenty of nice, religious or otherwise men who respect a woman who wants to wait. But this means your clothing needs to reflect your desires in life. A lawyer who shoes up in a bikini is not going to be hired. People wear revealing clothes to be looked at, its just what they are made for. To be sexy you have to be sexual. This does not mean men have a right to rape or not take no for an answer. But on top of that, if someone wants sex out of a relationship then it is rather dumb to assume the relationship is going to be healthy if the person is asexual. You would never suggest a gay man go for a nice, wholesome woman. To be evenly yoked, you need to have at least some interest in sex (if your partner is interested). If not, then do not date until you are over certain fears, or date asexual people, Christians, ect who are willing to wait or do not want sex.

247, Nobody is saying you must have sex to be in a relationship, but you should divulge this information PRIOR to entering into one. Springing it on someone after you've snagged them and they're trapped is completely inappropriate. People expect sexual contact, but if you aren't prepared to do this and you've told them before anything happened then you're in the clear.

252, her boyfriend probably knew she was a virgin early in the relationship. That being assumed, he should know that most virgins aren't going to give it up very easily. If he expected sex out a relationship he should have broke it off with her when she told him she was a virgin. If she wasn't a virgin, then yeah sex would kind of be expected.

Don't go there. Don't use the "she was asking for it" defense. A woman's clothes don't determine her level of comfort having sex.

Are you saying you have analesedophobia?

Yep

Your chocolate tunnel of L.O.V.E

Or maybe it's her sneaky way of trying to get OP to breakup with her? "hmm... I need him to think this is his idea. What'll make him want to dump me?"

Sounds probable...he is from Singapore. Poor guy.

I find it weird you know so much about small penises

Maybe I know about tiny penises because I have an infant son. If I can father two children, I think I'm probably ok in this department. You, on the other hand, seem fixated. Why is that?

Perhaps I should go back to the picture of myself rather than my son and dachshund. Might be less confusing for the simple minded.

Well I for one thought you were the baby in the picture who typed this up.

Well I for one thought you were the baby in the picture who typed this up.

Aww I got moderated. :(

And now my comment looks random.. Awkward.

And now my comment looks random.. Awkward.

And now my comment looks random.. Awkward.

How are you the only one to notice that?! That's HILARIOUS! Thank you Sooo much for pointing that out cuz it was the funniest thing on this whole FML

Haha thats awesome!

What a jerk you must be! Relationships are definitely not just about sex. And if they are, that's not a real relationship. If one person in the relationship feels that it is best not to have sex or just doesn't want to at the time, then the partner should be understanding and caring and just have a talk with their girl or man.

^ *youdontsay.jpg* Sex is one of the LAST things on my mind in a relationship. I was only JOKING! Sheesh!