By Anonymous - 18/02/2013 07:09 - United States - Owensboro

Today, I was at my boyfriend's grandmother's house meeting her for the first time. I excused myself to the restroom and as I walked out of the room I heard her say, "You could do a lot better. She's fat." Then I heard my boyfriend reply, "I know." FML
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Same thing different taste

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Should have walked out and told him that YOU could do better, and dumped his ass.

MrBond007_fml 6

I'm trying to think of a way to explain how this might just be a big misunderstanding... I've got nothing :( sorry

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MrBond007_fml 6

I'm trying to think of a way to explain how this might just be a big misunderstanding... I've got nothing :( sorry

I can only sort of think of one, in that maybe he didn't hear the "you can do better" part. It's still terrible for him to say you're fat, but at least it could mean he likes you for more than your looks? Of course, that's extremely unlikely. So f*** your life OP.

At first I thought you were trying for a pun lol

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hawright 13

Emphasis on "big". Ha ha, sorry...

I hope that "I know" meant something like... He knows you're on the heavy side but he still loves you anyway.

iammeorami 25
iammeorami 25

he doesn't got a shit personality

X_Codes 11

@31 - Are you incapable of saying "fat?" Aside from the obvious one, where he knows you're fat and doesn't care, he could just be saying whatever to end this conversation as quickly as possible with his grandmother, because he knows it's going to lead nowhere. I do the exact same thing with my uncle.

RedPillSucks 31

I agree with #31. Perhaps she is fat, but he is dating her. I'm not a chubby chaser but I've known some very attractive overweight people. In this society, "fat/overweight" covers such a wide range of body types that the term is almost useless. His response should have been, "I love her just the way she is". Sounds like he's got some " 'splainin " to do.

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poemqueen 15

"I know you have your own thoughts about her, doesn't mean I have to agree with them."

Precisely! We get to choose from the boyfriend being a complete ass (with OP having a hint of insecurities in her looks) or the boyfriend has never stood up to anyone, ever. I rather be with someone who would stick up for me than just agree with everyone's words and thoughts, just so he can "fit in" and feel good about himself.

That was my thought as well. That the kid was just placating his grandmother.

51 - You get thumbed down because you're a gloat boat.

71, I thought people don't assume on this site, at least that's what another commenter put on another FML. My sister poked fun of me for being fat/over weight nearly my entire life. Then, in 2009, my second stomach was discovered, had to be removed, in 2010, due to cancerous cells, and both vagus nerves were severed. That gave me gastroparesis (I'm never hungry and I puke up everything I eat and drink) and there is no cure. I'm allergic to every anti-nausea medication (I get seizures from any of them). The last time I spoke to my sister, she told me that she doesn't want to have a relationship with me since I'm dying. It's too hard on her and my family. Now I'm 7 months pregnant and way underweight. She puts on her Facebook that she's waiting for me to blow up again since I'm pregnant. The doctors have prepared me to die right after my son is born or no later than August. I'm fighting for my life to get this baby into this world so he can have a much better life than I had. I can say whatever the hell I want and so can you. But if you think I post something mean, I have a right to. Furthermore, I'm going to gloat for the last few months of my life seeing as I only have a 10% chance of living past my child is born and even a less chance of ever holding him in my arms. The only other thing I do, besides being hooked up to nutrient bags (all of the nutrients to only to my son) all the time and get meds pumped into me 5 times a day, I have to write a diary to my kid so he won't turn to drugs and alcohol when he finds out that I knew I would be dead once he was born. I also found out two weeks after I was told I was pregnant that I have cancer that's also untreatable. Now everyone knows my story and thanks for reminding me of why I should talk about the good things in my life. My family considers me dead already so I only have a few emotions left.

I completely forgot what the FML was after reading all of that.

Why are you wasting your time reading fml and writing to strangers if you're dying? :o

chinchily 12

It could have been that OPs boyfriend was making his grandma a drink and the grandma said 'You could have done better, it's flat." And he said "I know..." And OP just didn't hear the rest. Hmmm.

81, honestly, to keep me sane. I can't drive anymore due to daily seizures. This is a long, painful death. FML always keeps me entertained.

28 I think if you truly believed that, you would be wearing a lot less makeup.

Wow, your story is so heartfelt! I can't believe how some people on here have no compassion, as well as your sister. It sounds like she got her ten-fold karma these days. You are a very strong individual, your son was made out of love and you're giving the love of your life a part of you that he can nurture and cherish when you're gone. Thank you for sharing your story and it just goes to show that you never know what someone is going through and I would've never thought you were dealing with this just from your original comment. Regardless I still understood where you're coming from and you are not mean! Keep your head up, stay strong sister and continue to say and feel whatever you want! Thank you for making my day and taking me outside of my own self pity, I have been very ungrateful lately and this is exactly what I needed!

7yzz 18

Wow they are both assholes for actually saying that, but if you are overweight hopefully this serves as motivation to get to a normal figure.

Should have walked out and told him that YOU could do better, and dumped his ass.

Do not take this to heart. These people are horrible! There are so many wonderful people on this planet who would never dream of treating you this way. Move on. :)

On the bright side, I bet Grandma is just jealous because your supposed fat still looks better than her wrinkly, saggy butt.

A lot of guys are into thick girls its all good

Never be with a guy who doesn't stick up for you when his family is out of line. It's almost always going to end in disaster. That comment was completely uncalled for, and for him to agree with it just proves he is a jerk who does not respect you.

And old. And cruel. And alone. F-her-L!

fat_snooki_lol 6

What an extremely hurtful thing to hear. At least you know that he won't defend you. Take that as a solid yardstick of disrespect, and leave him. Your partner should always have your back.

If you personally have a problem with your weight, you can change it. Unfortunately you have more trouble changing your boyfriend...

xStaciexLynnx 15

Pretty sure changing your boyfriend is easier than losing weight. Takes about 30 seconds to say You're an ass. We're done.

I'm sure you know what I meant. It doesn't say "ex-boyfriend" so she might not have dumped him. Females sometimes think they can change males but it doesn't often work.