My thoughts exactly. I don't do it very often, but when grandma gets all "senile" in an argument (repeating stuff for the hundreth time), I just go along with it and agree with her. It's easier for everyone, and she'll forget we even talked about something anyway...

So he wasn't completely wrong in what he said because it's more convenient for him? That's what standing up for someone is about. You do the right thing when it's not convenient for you.

So better to disrespect your girlfriend than avoid telling your grandmother that what she said wasn't very nice? Come on! He doesn't have to call his grandmother on the carpet, but he should make it clear that such insults are not acceptable. As for you, OP, here's a quick way to lose about 180 pounds: DTMFA.

Disrespect a grandmother or a girl he hasn't been dating for very long. (I'm assuming that because its the first time meeting grandma.) just agree with grandma and move on. Maybe if granny was harassing the GF I would step in but why waste energy and time arguing when it achieves nothing.

I don't care how old or senile my grandmother is, if she insulted someone I was dating (even if only for a short amount of time) I'd tell her to shut up and maybe even apologize. **** being polite for grandma's sake. She clearly has no interest in being polite for OP's sake.

16 > It's not the point. The point is that his grand-ma not only called her fat but said he could do better and he agreed to that. Even if she is overweight, the right answer if he was not an asshole would have been: "I don't care, I like her the way she is and I disagree with you saying she is not good enough for me". He does not seem a nice and supportive person and if I were OP, I'd leave his sorry ass.

Traditional....? What the hell does tradition have to do with complaining about a girl's weight? That's not old fashioned, it's cruel and tactless.

In some families and cultures you have to listen to your elders, whether they're behaving like an ass or not. The grandma is still a douche though.

@37 That's the only possible saving grace to that conversation, that he may have agreed just as a sign of respect for his elders.

I was thinking the same thing. Sometimes it's easier to just bobblehead your way through a conversation like this than to argue with granny. I do that with my very opinionated father because there's just no changing his mind and it doesn't change the way I feel. My family had their opinions about my wife but I've been married for 15 years with 3 children. Their opinions never changed how I feel about her. I just don't like starting unnecessary arguments.