First off, the hymen should never be broken, it never needs to be broken. It only gets broken in sex if the man was too rough or if the woman wasn't sufficiently turned on or both. If we just, as a culture, stopped considering hymen breaking normal and taught girls that they didn't need to put up with that pain and taught guys some empathy, then hymens would cease to be broken from sex. Second of all, the concept of virginity is arbitrary. It originally became a thing when women were bought and sold and men wanted to be assured that any child coming from his bride was his own. Nowadays, we have reliable birth control and pregnancy tests and paternity tests, so a guy can be assured that his wife isn't pregnant by someone else even if she has had sex with people before him (although if he thinks he needs that assurance he's probably a controlling asshole). Is a woman who tests negative for pregnancy a virgin? Given the purpose of the original concept she functionally would be, but obviously that isn't how the word is used now. Nowadays virginity is this mythical purity that you somehow lose by having sex. That's bullshit because having sex once doesn't change anything about you. Having sex a bunch of times does change you, but it's all in terms of gaining experience and learning a skill- you don't lose anything. Then there's the ambiguity of what counts as sex. Is it still sex if you stop before anyone cums? Does gay or lesbian sex count as sex? Where you draw the line is arbitrary. So yeah, virginity is a pointless concept.