But there is a law against emotionally abusing your child, which I think the mother's actions would qualify as.

There is. But going on trial against your own parents is a thing not many would do. I know a girl who did. But you should be prepared to not talk with you parents for years or maybe never again.

Yep, that summarized OP's FML. I'm sure it was understood or OP wouldn't have written it to essentially say just that. Good for interpretation though, if another reader doesn't figure it out.

Thanks for the information. My husband has done this a few time throughout our marriage. I didn't know it had a nane.

You might want to gently bring this up to him and how it makes you feel. I don't know anything about your marriage so I don't want to encourage you to do something you don't feel comfortable with, though.

I think it depends on the case. If a capable kid/teen constantly loses the stuff their parents buy them, or important items, because they're irresponsible, messy, and careless, a punishment might be needed to teach them how to be more organized and caring about their things. Especially since, in the real world, with jobs, and even school, losing things isn't tolerated very much. You're expected to be organized enough to keep track of stuff. I consider this more of a punishment for being irresponsible, not necessarily for the item they lost though. However, everyone loses and misplaces things sometimes. It isn't like it's done purposely so I don't think it's really disrespectful. So for the most part, I don't think a punishment for this is right, maybe talking and teaching them how to improve would be better. Either way, it doesn't matter much for this case since the OP never really lost anything. The mother is just a manipulative bitch.

Disrespectful? Unfortunate, maybe, and a bit irresponsible, but disrespectful sounds deliberate.

It may be difficult to cut the mother out if the op is underage and still living at home