hahaha, that sucks, man. I hope this is made up. But, stick to your decision and don't let anyone try to tell you it's stupid. I wish I would have made the same decision. Keep following your faith and don't let the world tell you it's wrong. = )

hahahahaha i would pay to hear my christain mom say that!

#102, marriage is not all about sex. Marriage is about, like you said, ultimate commitment, intimacy, being comfortable enough with each other to want to spend the rest of your lives together. By saying that you need to have sex before marriage as a "test drive", you're kind of saying that good or bad sex is what's important for marriage to work. Uhhh no. Marriage is a bit about experiencing life with each other, which includes sex - possibly for the first time. Seems to me like a 'test drive' would be something more along the lines of moving in together. #91 and others who are waiting and shared stories about how it's worth it, thank you. It's people like you that keep me strong in my decision to wait.

dude, you ****** your own life over by choosing not to have sex til marriage

what? if your family's christian, than why wouldn't she be proud? whatever your choice is, **** what your mom says, it's your choice.

I like your mom. No sex until marriage is stupid in my opinion because there is absolutely no reason to not have it. No kittens will die and God won't throw lightnings at you and the reason that I'm still able to write this comment proves the "God doesn't throw lightings at you" point. ; ) I don't think that you should always look out for Sex from now on. But when there's an good opportunity and the girl's hot then my advice is: Take it! : )

So, I was raised Catholic, and I agree with your mom. If you are "really Christian", I assume you'd have read the Bible, in which Jesus pretty much makes it clear that marriage is an impediment to spiritual progress. Yeah, that's right, the J-man thinks it'll slow you down. Considering the dude also hung out with ****** and other shunned folk of the day, I doubt he's going to judge you harshly for such a transgression occuring before entering an institution he clearly didn't agree with in the first place. And being "really christian" doesn't actually mean that you're inherently celibate. Methodists, Brethren, and a number of other sects really don't think sex matters much, and I've met some that are REALLY Christian. Like, complete pacifists, refuse-to-make-more-than-poverty-level-income-because-taxes-support-war Christians. Does sex matter relative to how our own greed feeds the murder of people all over the world? I think Jesus was pretty clear about that. The whole celibacy bit is something the Catholics imposed, and as an ex-Catholic, I'm sorry. It was a strategy to keep property in the Church's name for priests and, along with prohibition of birth control and women practicing medicine, to maximize the number of Catholics in the world. That's it. We banned "meat" on Fridays to prop up the Italian fish market. We banned zero for three hundred years to keep control of accounting systems that benefitted the Church. We do stuff like that, when it suits us. I'm sure Jesus wouldn't have been cool with a lot of it, so go for it. Jesus was pretty pro-love, and I don't think bumping uglies will ever be worse than say purchasing electronics that utilize minerals mined from conflict areas, thereby funding militias that murder millions. Jesus hates your iPhone, not when you started banging your wife. Or, I dunno, ignoring the whole doctrine of Christian Stewardship (read genesis baby) and destroying creation for your half-caff latte in a styrofoam cup. I have an awesomely healthy marriage, and yes, we had sex before we got married. We also had sex with other people before that. I don't think it "ruined" anything. If you think sex before marriage ruins sex, you obviously don't have the creativity or imagination to sustain a healthy marriage anyway. Sex is still special, it's still the best in my life, and it still gets better. If I had waited, I would have probably married one of my first girlfriends, and that would have been bad. I'd have been eager to get laid, and willing to say "I do" to do it. It's hormones, and they kick in around 13, but society is structured differently than we evolved. The Catholics wanted more Catholics, and so they made it happen. No sex before marriage=early marriage=more catholics sooner. Oh, and my mom laughed at the whole waiting bit too. She didn't, and they've been together for like 29 years. And my mom was the first one to tell me the "you wouldn't buy a car without test driving it" bit. Considering the Catholics allow for failure to consumate and procreate as grounds for annulment, clearly they acknowledge buying without trying is a problem. Except that annulments and divorce are expensive, and that money all goes to the Church.

Why are there people like this and why are they alowed to have children?

#109, having sex with your wife and "supporting wars" are both sins... If you follow the Bible, then it says that in God's eyes, a sin is a sin to God, no matter how big or small WE see it. So what about the bible's stance on Fornication? As a "raised catholic", I know you've read about it. Are you saying to just ignore one part of the bible and not another? just because you would rather **** than "support" a war? For someone using so much religion to back their point, I'm surprised you'd so blatantly ignore that.

Are you a guy or a girl? I hope you're a guy or your mum is totally f' up