Go home mom, you're drunk

By Single and pissed - 18/02/2023 04:00

Today, my Syrian-American fiancée is reconsidering the engagement and returned the ring, all because my mother decided last night was the perfect night to get drunk during dinner, and blurt out racist Muslim jokes and phrases. She refuses to apologize or acknowledge that she did anything wrong. FML
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Chazzster 28

Children are not responsible for their parents. Explain to your fiancé that your mother’s beliefs and opinions are not yours. Your fiancé may or may not accept the situation because when you marry into a family you tend to get the bad with the good and she may not want to envision spending the rest of her life with a MIL who is prejudiced against her culture and family. But it’s worth a try… Regardless of the decision your fiancé takes, I suggest cutting your ties with your mother. It obvious that you and she do not have compatible values. And all that prejudice and negativity will come out no matter who you marry… It’s a terrible thing to have to cut ties with a close family member but sometimes it’s the only way to be emotionally healthy… By the way, I hope you stood up to Mom in defense of your fiancé.

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JackWood 20

She's probably experienced plenty of racist nutjobs she doesn't want to put up with any more. Who would?

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Chazzster 28

Children are not responsible for their parents. Explain to your fiancé that your mother’s beliefs and opinions are not yours. Your fiancé may or may not accept the situation because when you marry into a family you tend to get the bad with the good and she may not want to envision spending the rest of her life with a MIL who is prejudiced against her culture and family. But it’s worth a try… Regardless of the decision your fiancé takes, I suggest cutting your ties with your mother. It obvious that you and she do not have compatible values. And all that prejudice and negativity will come out no matter who you marry… It’s a terrible thing to have to cut ties with a close family member but sometimes it’s the only way to be emotionally healthy… By the way, I hope you stood up to Mom in defense of your fiancé.

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tiptoppc 19

This. I’m dealing with a similar situation in my marriage. And I’ve actually managed to use it to troll my in-laws, but it’s a major PITA, and cutting all contact is a perfectly acceptable way to shut this shit down. It doesn’t get better, and even in my family, I had to cut all ties with my own father for things he’s said and done (he’s from Louisiana, my wife is multiracial).

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JackWood 20

She's probably experienced plenty of racist nutjobs she doesn't want to put up with any more. Who would?

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Earl_KarmasBitch 34

Just tell your fiancee she'll never have to see your mother again, ever. Whether you choose to cut ties with your mother or not is your choice, but make sure she understands that she will never be welcome in your home, will never get to demand you visit for holidays and won't get to see any grandchildren you may have. If you can't do that for your fiancee, she's better off without you.

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Sara Niemantsverdriet 12

Did you stand up for your fiancee by telling your mother to knock it off at the first comment, and leave when she made another one? if not, then YDI.

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Chazzster 28

Final comment - Maybe Mom got exactly what she wanted and her whole purpose was to cause a breakup with your fiancé. More reason to get rid of the apron strings and be rid of mom.

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