For the record, it's actually very difficult to get your tubes tied if you're childless and young. You can insist that you don't want kids as much as you want, but apparently a lot of doctors will still refuse to perform the surgery. I assume they're worried that the woman will change her mind later and sue or something, which seems stupid to me but oh well.

I have heard that, but there are doctors that will. But with irresponsible men (the ones who claim to not want kids yet get multiple women pregnant), its an ego thing. Despite not wanting kids, they will not get snipped.

But that doesn't really work if you want to have kids some day, but not yet. Also there's always a possibility of changing your mind about it later on in life, so getting your tubes tied probably isn't the best idea in some situations.

I keep hearing about how hard it is to get sterlized if you're young and from my own experience, that is total BS. I got sterlized when I was 24 and it couldn't have been easier. I made an appointment with the doctor who confirmed I was 100% sure that's what I wanted since it can't be reversed and then made another appointment a little later to have the surgery done. Super easy. If you act uneasy or unsure they will turn you away, but if you're serious they don't give you any problems.

Alcohol in a small amount and only occasionally is not bad for the fetus. Just ask a doctor first. A celebratory glass ( no more ) will NOT harm the child. Condoms, the pill, IUDs, etc are not 100% effective at preventing pregnancy. My parents used condoms and my mother was on birth control, and she still got pregnant with me. Just because you are "lucky" enough not to have any pregnancies so far, doesn't mean that it can't happen. Besides which, an unplanned pregnancy can be just as scary for the mother as it is for the father. If I got pregnant, I'd panic for a bit too, before sitting down with the father and deciding what to do. A pregnancy doesn't have to be something to escape from, it's not a curse or a life-ruiner. There's nothing that says you can't have a nice couple adopt the child when it's born, a couple who otherwise were not able to have children. That kind of blessing for them is certainly nothing to shy away from.

just wanted to say... I'm a birth control baby... have a nice day!

I was conceived at a party.

my son is a birth control baby, and I'm a busted rubber baby. nothing but abstinence is 100% effective. a glass of wine or a beer (single!) is not bad, and some doctors even believe can be good for you during pregnancy because it helps lower stress levels.

The pill is 99% effective IF TAKEN RIGHT. So, a 1% chance. Taken incorrectly (missing doses, different times of day, other types of carelessness) it's 95% effective. And if you miss doses, take different times of the day, or are otherwise careless, and you add a condom (over 90% effective) guess what? Unless God really hates you, you aren't going to get pregnant. Yes, about 1/1000 will (actually, a little less) if they are consistent and careful and use two forms of birth control. But that's why you have the "what do we do if we get pregnant" talk before you ever put the wee wee in the vah jay jay. BTW, the alcohol-and-pregnancy stuff? Check the CURRENT research; what is in the medical journals in the last two years. No alcohol.

I was on birth control for almost two months when I found out I was pregnant. And we used a condom. I never missed a dose and took it at the same time everyday and still managed to get pregnant.

Guess what, all of those chances are above 0%, therefore there is a chance of getting pregnant.

I used an iud. can't exactly misuse those, seeing as how the doctor does all the work.

My best friend, whose biggest fear was getting pregnant before finishing grad school, got pregnant while on the pill and using a condom. Her fiancé stuck around even though it was unplanned. OPs boyfriend is an asshole and freak accidents do happen. The only sure way to not get pregnant is to not have sex, and who would want to do that.

Myself and my son are both birth control babies. Shit happens and when it does you take responsibility because you know what can happen when you fool around. I freaked out initially but my life wasn't over and it turned out, my son bettered my life in every way imaginable. His dad is only partially involved but, his loss. My biggest accident was the best thing to ever happen to me. My baby boy is freakin' awesome and he didn't get that from his dad.

You can, and also, please learn how to spell, and pay attention in schol

Oh the irony

Protection isn't a 100% guarantee that there won't be a pregnancy... And had protection been used I'm assuming she didn't actively mind will the rogue sperm that passed the barriers or the egg that gave birth control the middle finger to make a baby.

Because all birth control is 100% effective, right? There's no .01% chance that you'll get pregnant even with using it properly, right? Please, get over yourself. Obviously OP thought her boyfriend was committed enough to her to be with her through everything, even pregnancy. The boyfriend is being a complete dickwad. He knew there was the potential to get his girlfriend pregnant when he started having sex with her. He needs to grow the **** up and take responsibilities for his actions.

it takes two its not one sided

Well the problem nowadays is a lot of people just don't bother. I've been on various birth controls for 10 years and never even had a scare. An IUD is the next best thing to abstinence. And legally it's not smart to say something is 100% fool proof. But if taken correctly and used in conjunction with a condom it's pretty damn close.

I have been on birth control for years, and unfortunately have still had 2 pregnancy scares. The only way NOT to get pregnant is to NOT have sex.

#62 is absolutely right. Get over yourself. I and my son were birth control babies, things happen. When two people decide to have sex with each other, no matter the contraceptive, you always run the risk and so you need to be willing to take responsibility when it happens. If you aren't, you're a ******* child and never should have been foolong around in the first place.

If you miss two pills, you don't have sex for the rest of the month. If you really must, you use a condom AND you have him pull out. It's called Being An Adult and Being Responsible.

The entire point of this site is to pass judgment.