that's what I was thinking, but he should have at least left a message or called, to make sure op doesn't feel abandoned. it doesn't really say in the fml whether he's available still or vanished completely.

But he kind of IS an ass. He left 11 hours ago and neglected to come back. If he's scared, that's fine, but it's not okay to just leave her confused and scared. 2hether he likes it or not, this child is now his responsibility, and he needs to take that into account now before he acts. You can't just run away from your problems.

If he needed time to himself he should have said so, instead of being a little bitch and making up a stupid excuse to get away. My ex husband used to do shit to me like this all the time. At 8pm he'd leave with our only car saying, "I'll be right back." Then he'd not show up again until 5am, and the whole time he'd be gone he'd ignore my calls. I'd stay up all night, not being able to sleep, worried about where he was and what he was doing. Needles to say, it drove me crazy with anxiety. I can't imagine what it would be like if he did that right after I told him I was pregnant. No woman should have to go through that, and no man should ever put a woman through that.

Some guys just want to be alone, away from everything to think, well at least that's how i am. But i at least say i need time to think, not lie

I'm sorry but despite all the sympathy I might feel for a guy who just learned such a news, and even though I imagine it can be pretty hard to cope with if he wasn't expecting that, I still think it's irresponsible to just leave your pregnant girlfriend and go missing. Can't he think of her too ? She's the one carrying the baby and it's probably just as hard for her, if not harder. This is a situation that's affecting both of them. His reaction is very selfish.

It always gets me when girls whine about the boyfriend not being there for them in pregnancy and with a baby. Especially when they say the 2nd or 3rd kid. It's rough enough when you're married bit at least with a marriage license, the guy has a little more reason to try to work things out, otherwise it's too easy to just walk away.

So are you berating OP for "whining"? I think it is perfectly understandable for her to be upset. They may not be married, but it takes two people to make a baby. This isn't Doctor Who where they can just generate children from single DNA. Even if it is hard to raise a child, it is still BOTH parents' responsibility. "Whining". Pish posh, I would be just as upset.

I opted to use 'whine' as a bit of a pun. She can be upset all she wants but if they were married, his reaction would be considerably different.

Yeah, okay. Cause a flimsy little piece of paper changes the guy completely. Get real.>.

That piece of paper indicates more of a commitment and makes them think a little harder before just walking away. And you usually know your partner's thoughts on babies when you're married.

#148 so by your logic, she deserves this because she's not married to this guy and should've known that he'd be more likely to leave. Just how do you know they haven't talked about babies? They could have been dating for several years or be one of those couples that views marraige as a religious thing and not for them. Married or no, that was a ****** up thing for him to do.

I didn't say OP deserved it, just that it is more to be expected when there is less of a commitment. And you're correct that we don't know the whole story. But if they'd been dating for several years, he probably wouldn't have left like that unless he'd already told her that he did not want kids.

I completely agree that a marriage means more commitment, at least it should. In these days marriage is near meaningless to most people, but most people are also losing morals too. Getting back to the topic, don't hate on someone's comment for upholding good values that are more beneficial to growth and development of the child. Two parents committed to each other first before the child is born is best. I do realize many come from situations where that was not the case for them and things happen so don't take the word best personally.

The comment in question was not hated on from a moral standpoint of marriage, but a responsibilty standpoint of the boyfriend no matter if they were married or not. Regardless it is what it is and in no way did OP deserve to be left alone in this.

I never said he wasn't an irresponsible jerk, just predictable.

I agree. This story isn't surprising. Tell me your husband did this and I might be surprised.

People are hating so hard on these comments. But I agree with you.

I will say this. I had a guy I was dating for quite some time and we had a pregnancy scare. We lived many miles apart and he was supportive, caring, and even took me to the doctor after traveling out. One of my best friends, on the other hand, got married and got pregnant. He then left saying he wasn't ready for all of the commitment. So don't tell me a guy is different due to relationship status. Because that is bull.

There will always be exceptions to the norm, fortunately for you.

Drinking alcohol during pregnancy is perfectly fine, but in a very small amount, and only occasionally. It was actually encouraged for quite a long time in European countries, with German mothers drinking beer, and Italians drinking wine, for example. It's when you start drinking hard liquor and getting drunk that it becomes a problem for the child.

Nowhere is this FML does it say that the OP was intending to drink. Now go be off-topic somewhere else.

And now that we know something about drinking when your pregnant and don't live in your European dark ages anymore we know it's actually really bad for the baby. Dumbass....

It's actually perfectly fine to drink one glass of wine a day while pregnant. It's said to be good for both the pregnant woman and the baby. Source: I was just pregnant. I personally chose not to drink but a glass is perfectly fine.

Really?

You can have a glass of wine, red wine is actually beneficial while pregnant. Just not the whole bottle, and definitely not every night.