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By Anonymous - 11/09/2015 18:49 - Canada - Brampton

Today, I told to my girlfriend of 5 years that I'm depressed about having no friends, no job and a difficult family life. I told her that she's the one constant that keeps me going. She decided this was a good time to break up with me to "find" herself, since I was being so mopey. FML
I agree, your life sucks 26 374
You deserved it 3 849

Same thing different taste

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It's so sad reading all these FMLs of people with relationships of years and the other brakes up due to the other being depressed, or losing their job etc. I'm sorry op

Try and join a group where you can talk about your problems. I'm sorry for you but she sounds like a bitch.

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Sorry OP :( I know how tough it is when you're depressed and everything goes wrong, but you just have to push through it and realize that you're strong enough to do so. Seek things that make you happy, try finding a new hobby that interests you and is around other people so you make new friends. Also, look for cheap/free therapy options in your area, they do exist! Even if you aren't majorly depressed, it helps to talk to someone and get everything out. I wish you luck :)

toomanyidiots 14

Some people aren't able to provide the emotional support necessary for an individual with depression (and this extends to other disorders, mental and physical). Obviously we don't know what happened here, but I know of two relationships where the depressed partner had a strong, prolonged negative impact on the other person. In the case of mine, I had to get out because I couldn't handle it anymore -- nothing I said or did was helping, he refused to go to a psychiatrist or therapist, and it still became a case of "what matters more -- me or your future?" (as in, "I want to die I need you right now" when I had other obligations that affected my own future). From the wording of the FML, the girlfriend was tactless. That said, I feel like we're only getting half of the story.

I can understand your feelings, OP. I am going through something similar. Hope things fall into place for you, soon.

With the greatest respect OP, you have to remember that others can't be responsible for YOUR happiness. You need to find it on your own. So perhaps you could take this as an opportunity to "find" yourself, also?

What a wonderfully kind, gentle way to be honest. ? I couldn't have said it any better.

She is exactly right! However much this hurts, you can't rely on other people to make you happy, you have to find happiness within.

Maybe with her out of the way for a bit try picking yourself up, go out make some friends and apply for some jobs

Having been there before, I know how awful a position you're in. That being said; that's a tremendous amount of pressure to put on somebody. You can't make other people responsible for your happiness.

Absolutely! For all we know, the girlfriend could have easily had other personal issues she's been dealing with and she might have been feeling exhausted from OPs depression.

if you want friends, you have to be friendly. im a firm believer that we attract what we want in life. while some may say they want this or that in life, their actions speak otherwise. this (ex) girlfriend of yours is obviously a thundercunt. she displayed her true self, so leave her alone. get a haircut and new clothes and try again. dont give up!

brew44 15

My boyfriend did the same thing, except I was depressed over losing my mom and my stepdad and his side of the family disowning me. My boyfriend said I was too negative. Try to hang in there, I know it's hard.

FYL because it sucks to be dumped, especially when you were already in a bad situation, but also YDI because you should never build your entire life around one person, no matter how much you love them. Maybe you can now take the time to get out there more and find yourself some good friends before you even think of dating someone again.

Look, OP, I am not unsympathetic. I have depression and anxiety myself. It sucks when you suspect your loved ones only tolerate you out of pity, and I can't imagine how it feels to sort of have that suspicion confirmed. But being the sole emotional outlet for someone with serious issues is too much for anyone, especially someone who isn't a trained therapist. I'd see if there are some sliding scale payment therapy programs in your programs in your area. It's harsh, but you really do have to work on loving yourself before you can expect someone else to love you.