Keep that up and you'll lose your perfect life. One word: Therapy. That's absolutely toxic.

I’m not a woman, so I have no personal experience with hormones and cycles. But I can say that my mood is changeable and if I am uncomfortable or taking certain medications (like a steroid for an infection or inflammation) that I have learned that in those times I need to pay special attention not to lash out at the people around me… OP, I urge you to see both a medical doctor and a counselor to help you not sabotage your relationship. If it’s a medical issue underlying then that will give you insight. If it’s a psychological issue then a psychologist or counselor can help you learn to deal with the issue better. Ultimately, no matter how wonderful a person is much of the time, pointless arguments and frequent bad moods will affect your relationships.

How to ruin a good thing and tempt your husband into considering finding someone else that isn’t nuts!

What are you looking for, sympathy? Get bloody well help. Your husband and children deserve better.

I feel like it’s the husband posting here…

You sound like my ex-wife. That should tell you something.

You should 1, get some therapy. A lot of people mimic the environment that they grew up in when in a relationship so if your parents would fight and argue, that is naturally what you will do in a relationship. You should also have a conversation with your partner and let them know because you are probably driving them crazy and making them start to question things.