Rollercoaster

By Anonymous - 05/03/2010 12:54 - United States

Today, my girlfriend blew up at me for a comment I had made several weeks ago about not wanting kids. Then, she told me that she's pregnant. After consoling her and telling her that whatever we do, we'll do it together, she further explained that she's not sure if it's mine. FML
I agree, your life sucks 42 717
You deserved it 3 659

Same thing different taste

Top comments

I think you just found your out.... Run!

nibawan 0

did you drive her to the hospital after you pushed her down the stairs?

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mclovin99 0

well if it's not urs punch her in the stomach :D

Dump her and when the baby is born, make her get a DNA test to see if it's yours. Don't let her put your name on the birth certificate until you know for sure, or you'll be stuck paying for a child that isn't yours. Now, certainly, if you choose to stay with the **** and raise the child as your own, that's a different matter. But she's proven that she cheats on you, and you deserve better. Oh, and if the child is yours and you two don't remain together, don't just give her money for the baby - buy the stuff yourself and take it to her. That way, she can't use the money and then not take care of your child. And document everything. Keep all the receipts because if she takes you to court to try to say you're not paying for the child, you can prove that you are. Good luck. That's a sucky situation.

The best advice I could give you is this:- Stay with her. Tell her you love her. Tell her that you'll stay with her if she gets an abortion, And tell her that you can have a child together in a few years when you're both ready. Then leave her as soon as she has had the abortion.

Abortions can significantly reduce the possibility of a healthy pregnancy later on in life. So unless she's really stupid she'd just keep that one and say that she is ready for a baby and that the OP can either be now or later. Or she might be opposed to abortion and various other reasons that would cause that plan to fail.

And what exactly are his other options? 1) Stay with the cheating wh*re, support her through her pregnancy, then find out the child is not his. 2) If he is the father, have a relationship with a woman he no longer trusts or likes. Such a relationship is bound to fail within 2-3 years. 3) Leave her now, find out the child is his later, and as above get stuck with child support for a child he never wanted.

I think it's upto the girl to decide if she wants an abortion or not, not him. If she wants to keep it then I think he should find out if it's his, if it is he pays child support or at least comes to an agreement about how much of a father figure he needs to be with the girl (and get that well documented or something), if it isn't his it's not his problem. But obviously I'm totally wrong and the best solution is for her to get an abortion, and it seems clear that she wants kids, so you know, obviously the right thing to do is to pressure her into getting one. (yes, that last bit was sarcastic)

So basically you believe that only women have the right make a decision, and men have men have to bear the consequences. You're a typical misandrist bigot. The only reason the situation has occurred is because she cheated on him. Why should he have to take responsibility for her deceitful unethical behaviour? Of course she's too self centred, which is why subterfuge is required to make her do the right thing.

Actually I agree with your second paragraph. (Not sarcasm.)

No I don't believe only women have the right to make the decision. Personally I think couples should talk about having kids before they have them, but if the girl does get pregnant they should then sit down and discuss it again, if they both think that an abortion would be best, then fair enough. What I disagree with is the pressuring into getting an abortion. He doesn't have to take responsibility for her being a cheating ***** (though technically the fml never mentions she cheated, for all we know she was raped, it's just the less likely of the two options), he can chose to leave her and tell her to phone him when she's had the DNA test to let him know if it's his and to show him the results. He doesn't have to stay with her to be a father figure. If she wants the baby and he doesn't (and it's not his) then she has to deal with the responsibility of getting knocked up by someone else. Not him.

Inuyasha1770 0

that's when you call her a ***** and leave because no matter what that means she has cheated on you if the kid is yours great you have a son or daughter you can love forever if not move on.

88sforlife 0

even if he did or didn't wear a condom, there is a possibility the other guy didn't or did wear a condom. so I don't think he deserves it...

hateevryone 14

first, she blows up at you. second, she let you know she's pregnant. then, after you console her, she let you know that it might not be yours. yea, i think its safe to say, you're dating a *****.