Thanks, I feel better!

By anon - This FML is from back in 2015 but it's good stuff - United States - Port Saint Lucie

Today, I told my grandma my boyfriend had cheated on me. She told me that it was my fault for not straightening my hair, and for gaining a few pounds. FML
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Aedan888 25

Grandmas can be really tough sometimes :/

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red795 10

He didn't break up with her, he cheated on her, which is much worse. I'm sorry OP, cheating is always the cheater's fault, and your granny should have been a little more sensitive to your feelings.

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OneFourNine 9

Your boyfriend cheating is not a reflection on you. It was his decision, his action. It is his responsibility, not yours. Be happy with who you are. Be happy with what you do. If you are not happy with either, change it. What others may think or say of you is irrelevant.

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hamusta 13

Let me guess; you're black and your grandmother full of internalised racism?

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ohSNAPyall 26

I take it she was not burning her bras back in the 70s.

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holly_fly 34

I'm not saying there is ever an excusable reason to cheat, but sometimes people do it because they aren't getting what they wanted from the relationship and they don't want to hurt the person they're with by breaking up because they love them... A lot of times, if this is the case, it hurts the cheater just as much as it hurts the cheated on after its all said and done.

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MonstreBelle 29

Maybe if you're in middle school. It makes no sense to avoid hurting and breaking up with someone by doing something that will hurt them worse than talking to them about how you feel. By doing that you're just making it even more likely they'll break up with you. If someone can't talk to their b/gf about their relationship and address any problems, then they shouldn't be with that person and probably shouldn't be in a relationship at all until they grow up and mature

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holly_fly 34

But what if said person tried to talk it out, and they came to the agreement of an open relationship? It's still cheating, and it still hurts, but.

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holly_fly 34

But, it's an open relationship. Even after months of trying everything else, that was the last thing to try. No, I'm not saying it's ever right, but maybe they did try a lot of other things.

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DoomedGemini 37

Open relationships are NOT cheating. Cheating is going behind your partners back, open relationship and polyamory people can sleep with others with the partner fully aware and in agreement with it. If you cheat, you are selfish. Don't try to turn it where they are selfless, they think with their sex organs and ignore the fact it will hurt their partner.

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MonstreBelle 29

Just like DoomedGemini said, having an open relationship is not the same thing as cheating on your b/gf. As long as everyone involved is aware and okay with an open relationship, then people don't get hurt by an open relationship anymore than a monogamous one. If someone is having relationship problems and has tried to talk about them but nothing changes, then it's time to end the relationship since it's clearly not working. Just because two people love each other doesn't mean they should be together. Cheating is a selfish action that is extremely hurtful and disrespectful to the person you supposedly love. If you're capable of betraying someone like that, then you don't really love them in the first place.

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ekalfhsa 2

I've been single for about a year. My estranged granny used to tell me constantly that my engaged older sister is the family beauty and I'm lucky I make up for it with academia. Grannies can be dicks, OP, and your bf cheated on you because he's a cheater. Don't let granny blame you.

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cadillacgal79 32

Everybody's weight fluctuates, that does not mean it's her fault or justifies her ex boyfriends actions.

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Nethri 4

Shouldn't have gained a few pounds for sure. Go grandma!

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DoomedGemini 37

With that attitude, I see having relationship issues in your future. If you can't take people gaining a little weight, you are going to have a big issue. I haven't known anyone whose weight doesn't fluctuate. Not to mention, it's no excuse for cheating.

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bapbap_fml 15

Yea, my grandma had a bunch of really old fashioned ideas and ingrained sexism, too. She thought I'd have trouble finding a husband because I had a career...

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countryb_cth 38

Even if she gained a few pounds it is not her fault at all. I'm guessing OP might be a young adult and most if not all young adults go through weight fluctuations due to growing and all that. Her now ex is just a huge douche and her grandma is seriously rude.

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