There's centuries of 'spinster sisters' across all Christian denominations who went to church every Sunday and found their peace with God. Same for all the 'Confirmed Bachelors'. Hell, there was a woman in the early British church who took her own eye out rather than marry a man, joined the Church and she ran her own Abbey with her female 'assistant' for the rest of their lives. These were women of deep Faith in positions of High power in the early church. If you can find the book try: Celtic Sexuality, power, paradigms and passions by Peter Cherici. Finding out about Augustine of Hippo explains a lot about the Christian attitude to sex... The Bible is just the cherry picked writings of what was available at the time, picked by men of the time. If you want to be free of Puritan self flagellation then you want the rest of the surviving Gospels. This is why the Dead Sea Scrolls are so very important. Your relationship with Chist is between him and your heart. No one and nothing else. You can't know him that well from just the Bible though, it's a fraction of the information available. Go read the rest of the gospels and early texts. Even as an Atheist, I'm pretty sure that Jesus, the actual man, would just tell you to adopt children who need a loving family. There is a smorgasbord of Christianity available to you, it's your 'journey' to find the one that you love entirely. Be that one of the other established denominations, one of the old ones or your own that you have built from everything that you have learned. You only really need a Church for the fundamental Rituals and potato salad, your relationship with your God is for you to define. The more you learn, the easier that is. A lot of people do not understand that to truly Find God, you have to actually go looking for Him in the first place. You have read just one biased digest of the whole Christian bookcase. Your peace with yourself and your God *is* there, you just have to go looking for it to find it. 🫂

You’ve clearly never read the Bible.

Remember you are as God made you, and that He probably didn't dictate what a lot of the books about Him say.

I voted You Deserved It, because you do. You deserve to be able to believe in a savior who loves you. You also deserve to be able to love this girl. Both can coexist. I hope you find a happy resolution that includes lots and lots of love.

Christian lesbian here. I'm not gonna say the thing about the Bible being misinterpreted because everyone else already has. Here's what I believe on a fundamental level that the Bible will never say. God loves all his children. Period. So why the **** would he create some of us to choose between being miserable our whole lives, or going to hell? If being gay really was a sin, so many people would be damned to hell from the moment of their birth, because it's not a choice. And I simply do not believe in a God that would make some of his children just to suffer. My girlfriend is the greatest thing that ever happened to me, I would be in an unspeakably dark place if not for her loving me. God sent her to me when I needed her. God sent you your girl too. You have his blessing. Best of luck <3

I'm sure there are a lot of comments here who don't understand the pain you are going through and will just suggest to leave your faith and religion in the name of love. But sometimes it doesn't work that way, An example most will agree with, is that if the other person is married it's not right for you to be with them. There are also other social and personal reason why two people who love each other can't be together. And in the end it's painful and it sucks. Don't listen to anyone telling you what to do, it's your own personal choice. You need to decide what is important to you and what will make you feel that you made the right moral choice. Love comes and sometimes goes, but in the long run we need to feel and believe that we made right choices. be true to yourself, don't be afraid of pain or shame to either side.

Ditch the book that is multi-generational translations of translations of irrelevant Bronze Age myths and go with your heart.

Clearly written where? What verse? Citation needed.

You need to break away from the church and live your life.