Time out

By Starfucks - 17/12/2015 02:55 - United States - Bensalem

Today, I was in Starbucks with my daughter when she noticed a travel cup she liked. She picked one up and asked for it, but I said no because it was expensive. She angrily slammed it back into its stand and in the process, knocked over a display of ceramic mugs. I had to pay for each broken mug. FML
I agree, your life sucks 25 874
You deserved it 4 541

Same thing different taste

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fumanshu 9

Assign money to chores, and have her do those extra chores till she works to pay it off herself. That's what my mom did! She taught me a very valuable lesson that way. Good luck op!

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fotomiep 7

How is saying no to a child bad parenting?

The bad parenting is raising a child that reacts like that

Children, on a psychological level, are not always capable of self control. It often has nothing to do with parenting. Where the 'good' or 'bad' parenting comes in is how they respond to this type of behavior. The way a child behaves in one given moment is not a reflection on parenting. Everyone has a bad day and children are allowed to, as well.

corky1992 33

Agreed. I believe it does reflect on the parents. I knew better than to act like that when I was a child and going out in public. You gotta teach your kids how to behave.

So you never had a temper tantrum when you were a child. There have been studies that explain why children have temper tantrums, and it is more than from being a brat. Young children do not know how to express themselves the same way an adult does. This can sometimes cause enough frustration, and turn into a tantrum because their little brains can't always process a better way to deal with it.

corky1992 33

Not anything like that no. I may have pouted about not getting candy or something but I knew better than to behave anything like this child did. I know kids have their moments and bad days, but unless it was a toddler then they should have known better than to break shit for not getting what they want.

To be fair 101, I don't think the daughter meant to break anything. I think she just meant to slam the mug down, which in turn took out the whole display.

I have a seven year old step daughter like this. I am waiting for the day for this to happen. in the mean time I have reorganized her room and am trying to show her how to fold her clothes, make her bed and keep her room tidy. hoping that I can change her attitude for the better. I agree with one commenter as giving chores assigned to money value. she can work it off. hopefully after she is done she realizes to be respectful because if this happens again it may mean an even longer bill to pay. hope everything works out for you.

argh! went to press upvote and my screen jumped causing me to hit downvote instead

my child knows better then to try some of that bs on me. good luck with that and let us know how she's doing when she turns 18.

I hope that by "I had to pay" you mean "I had to deduct the cost from what I would have given her".

For you or anyone else this happens to in the future: don't pay the full retail price of something if you break it. "You break it, you buy it" policies don't hold up well as legal contracts, and even in the case of negligence (which this would probably count as), your liability is to make the other party whole as before the incident occurred. This means replacing the item/paying the wholesale price, NOT paying the full retail price (because that puts the other party in a better position than before the incident). And then, still make your daughter pay for/work off the damages.

Not even, although if forced to pay I agree with the wholesale price, there is no legal obligation to pay for broken goods. At worst they will write it off on tax and St best they will get an insurance pay it. Either way they will receive the money for any broken goods.

I also hope you left immediately and didn't buy her anything to drink.

Make her pay you back with her money when she gets a job