By me. - 15/07/2009 08:02 - United States

Today, at 3:00 am, I sat with my 3 year-old daughter while she tried to go back to sleep. She'd had a nightmare, and I'd read that "not leaving" was the most important thing a father could do. My wife woke and called me a pervert for sitting there. FML
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Same thing different taste

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RESTAREA 0

Hopefully she was just joking? And, I mean, it was 3am, she was probably out of it anyway. No worries, you did the right thing and it's good that you're not letting her come into your own bed when those things happen because then they'll do it all the time. That's how it was with my brothers, atleast.

If she's serious, then she's clearly not cut out for parenthood - certainly not adoption. She's your DAUGHTER, and the fact you adopted shouldn't make a difference - your wife should understand, and shouldn't even be able to CONSIDER that. You should leave her, both because she doesn't appreciate and understand you AT ALL, and because she clearly doesn't feel the same way as you do about the adoption.

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Yeah, seriously! I think you're a great dad for staying awake until 3am to take care of your daughter. Your wife needs therapy.

Hummingbird114 0

As an adopted child myself, I commend you for trying to be a good dad... and have the sudden urge to slap your wife upside the head for being an idiot.

Your wife is an idiot. I have two daughters, one with to sons of her own. I spent many nights sitting by the bed after nightmares. On rare occasions, they'd tell me about the nightmares. Usually, they just wanted Daddy there. Tell your wife to get counseling, and tell your new daughter that you love her and will always be there.

netbeui435 3

why would she say that. what a dumbas* she is

ozymandias_fml 0

The best thing you can do *is* leave. Make her learn to deal with irrational fears herself -- and that they are indeed irrational.

ozymandias_fml 0

Might want to take a psych course. By having an adult give attention and 'stand watch' watching out for the boogy man, you are teaching the child that adults thought something was wrong and needed watching out for. It's the same reason you are not supposed to react with panic when they stub their toe, or skin their knee -- they take their cues from the adults, and will think it is something to panic over.

He didn't say he was "standing watch" for anything...you are making a lot of assumptions about what happened here. She may have screamed and he went in to check on her.

exoticat22 0

You did the right thing coming from someone who had awful nightmares as a kid, my parents didn't stay with me in fact they would shut my door to keep from hearing me cry. So I grew up with abandonment issues. Trust me. You just need to explain to your wife what you were doing.

Whaaaaaaaat? Slapping is so necessary!