I'm sorry, that's really horrible. But you need to stand up for yourself. If you let your parents control your life like that, then they aren't going to realize how much what they're doing is affecting you.

That is incredible and horrible. Even though your parents are awful, you are still in the same situation because you want it that way. :/ It might have helped if you had looked for a job while you were on college. Seriously, FYLife.

This made me really sad. Can you please stand up for yourself? You're legally an adult, so there's absolutely no reason for you to be their bitch.

wow that's awful. My mom was a pain (for reasons other than curfews) but as I slowly stood up to her, she started relenting and backing off. It took a while to get there due to our history, but it has mostly worked out in my favor, so I recommend starting to try being more assertive in your needs. I understand putting limits on high school kids and whatnot, but jeez...it's really excessive in your case. There's a past history of physical abuse. I wanted to go to school for medicine at first but she wouldn't pay for my application for that degree because she was assured I wouldn't make it through. So I graduated with a degree in business, but now I'm going back for medicine anyway on my own dime. It's hard for sure, and I'm kind of low on money since I'm working full time and going to school part time so I get no financial aid of any sorts, but it is doable.

it's not that i haven't tried standing up for myself, my mom's a total control freak who controls everyone including her own parents. i guess i didn't do that typical rebell-against-parents thing as a teenager, but i've come a long way to even get that curfew. it's a typical asian parents thing...and they say i'm a girl so that automatically means they have strict rules to "protect" me. and with asian moms, there is no such thing as talking to them about things, cuz they say we're disrespecting them for talking back, and going against them when they pay for everything...including my 50k schooling. *sigh* so i will be in debt to them for life, and listen to their everything single command.

also, whenever i do try to fight back, my mom becomes more aggressive and it becomes harder to stand up for myself next time, because she's like a broken record and keeps on bringing every single thing that's happened before up again.

Oh god. I feel your pain, I have a Nazi Asian Mom too. *hug* Attempting to rationalize gets us nowhere. Getting close to seeing it from their perspective will cause our brains to explode. :(

Move across the country. Seriously. That's really ******. If I were you, the freedom would be worth more to me than the familial relationship. Leave them forever and don't give them a phone number. They don't own you.

You don't understand the severity of the psychological damage and conditioning that Nazi Asian Moms inflict upon their own children, do you? Especially girls, we're expected to be good little slaves for every little chore, but at the same time we had to be 'like everyone else' and be successful at everything we do. And if mom doesn't like it, we can't ever be successful at it because they will take every step possible to prevent it. And then they wil harass you endlessly and try to cram your past mistakes down your throat until you 'go back' to the way they want you to be. This includes trying to move out; they will take and tear up newspaper ads, open our mail, disrupt Internet, take phones and spy. Moving anywhere? They can and will find us. They build up vast social networks before they even have children.

dude I can't believe that... you should look for a work and get out of there! I'm pretty sure you are still a virgin.... and that sucks....

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"Worst.Reference.Ever." AGREED. ******* Twilight fangirls...ugh