YDI and FYL. You're all giving pretty terrible reasons for the most part, though. If the husband posted one for his situation, I'd vote for both there as well. You deserve this hardcore, because you willingly entered into a relationship with someone that you should have known well enough prior to marriage to know this could happen, and then you interfered with his basic human right of privacy as well as violated federal law (I don't particularly care one way or the other about how disrespectful it was, it was illegal and therefore unacceptable on that basis alone) and went looking for trouble on top of that. Don't ask questions you don't want to know the answers to. F your life for the exact same reasons - you willingly entered into a relationship with someone you couldn't trust, and who can't trust you. You deserve each other for what you're doing to each other. Kindly ruin each others' lives so the rest of us can move along with our existence without you. #270 - As for husbands and wives always knowing all of each others' information? No. Maybe in your particular relationship that's what you've opted for, but under no circumstances would I share my personal bank account information, my various passwords or even user names, or other sensitive information with anyone, even a spouse - simply because there's no reason for it most of the time. To an extent I could see bank information, but in my case, it's not shared and won't be shared because I don't have the greatest of credit scores and attaching her name to my name on even just one account links her accounts to my accounts, which I don't want, but even were that not the case I would still have my own accounts separate. It is a matter of personal preference and something that should be decided for each relationship on an individual basis. I am still an individual person regardless of any relationship status, and there are things that I may want secret because I'm simply a private person - anything from communication regarding my employment, which generally holds me to confidentiality agreements, to a surprise birthday party. Don't assume just because your marriage works a certain way, that every one will work that exact way, because that is literally as ignorant as saying every woman is the exact same as you just because you are a woman. In other words, your logic isn't fit for a third grader, much less an apparently educated adult such as yourself. #289 - You're clearly not using your mental capacity to it's capacity. See above comment directed at 270.

Uhg. 5am post has minor grammar issues and edit just expired.