urgh, that must sting...I also know the feeling on being cheated. Be prepared for the "she's done me wrong but I still love her"-phase. And try to ignore it.

Do you have a daughter thats old enough to be doing stuff like that? If not, I'm sorry to hear this happened to you.

Sue Johanson suggests using condoms to keep toys clean. If it wasn't filled with ****, it could be something innocent.

Agreed

I think 2 was referring to where OP says "happily married", as in their marriage clearly wasn't as happy as he thought (if his wife is being unfaithful), and by "someone else's" meaning it belonged to an entirely different couple, not his wife. Could have been a little clearer though! :)

I totally agree!!! Ask her about it but don't fall for any bullshit stories either!!!! So sorry that happened !!!! I too feel your pain!!! I was married to my first husband for less than 2 yrs & I can name 10 different people that I know about off the top of my head, not ten times, ten PEOPLE !!!!! Everytime he got caught he would cry & swear it would never happen again!!! ( I found out about a bunch of the ten after our divorce) but a leopard never changes their spots!!!! Save yourself alot of future heartache & end it!!! You deserve SO much better!!!!!!

I agree with 52. I don't think someone could miss the point of the fml that bad.

Do you have a weird teenage neighbor or son ? Could be his.

Daughter / Son ???

You can still get herpes using a condom. Read up on STD transmission.