When family gets in the way of your children needs then it's time to cut the family member out of help. What's next college fund for lawyer fees? Their retirement fund for a car for him to wrap around a tree. There's helping family out and then there is throw money into a burning house that is just gonna be rubble in the end anyway.

Wth would you waste money on bail. There's a reason the uncle is in there in the first place.

I hope your dad starts separating his income and bank accounts from your mother's. If she's stolen from the two of you once, she'll start doing it more often- if she hasn't already stolen from the two of you in the past and this is just the first time she was caught. To be honest, if she has a history of doing things like this, using combined income or stealing from the private income of the rest of the family to make bad decisions like this, I'd be considering filing for divorce and custody of the kid's in your father's shoes. Even if she doesn't have a history, I'd certainly cut off her access to as much of the family income as possible, especially personal income and saving accounts.

Can't you get bail money back though??

I sense a D-word in your moms future...

"Gee mom. I can see who's future you place more value in. Clearly someone with no record- a blank slate- is worth less than someone who the State needs to lock up for the safety of others. Thanks for verifying that for me. I'll go invite that serial rapist and murderer over to live with us now. You know the guy who goes's after women who look like (INSERT DESCRIPTION OF YOUR MOM.). I heard he's my brother." Say that all with a straight face. That should get your point across if nothing else will.

God damn, your dad sounds like a sweet man. Tell him to put his money I an account that she can't access since it's obvious she has money issues.