Once a cheater always a cheater until proven otherwise.

I believe that would be impossible to prove otherwise?

Yeah i dont think he is going to be the same... He will never trust her and is gonna be a living hell marriage is not about that

Personally I think the fact that she cheated matters as well. Honesty in this situation is like an empty apology and should not be rewarded

"Honey, I killed our children with a chainsaw. I'm so sorry." "Ow. I would be heartbroken en completely devastated, but you obviously feel bad about it. Well, at least you're honest. Fancy some four 'o clock tea, darling?"

No an empty apology would be if she waited until after the husband discovered what happened some other way. In that case when she said she was sorry it would really mean she was sorry she got caught. If someone goes out of their way to confess something their spouse likely never would have found out otherwise that means that they must still love them because they can't stand the fact that they're hiding something from their significant other.

"That means that they must still love them"? Maybe the wife loves him now but she definitely didn't love him when she was in bed with another man. You don't cheat on someone if you love them. Cheating is not a "mistake". It's an "I don't actually love you nor do I have morals or give a shit about you or your feelings".

well said

Whether the average person cares to admit it or not, human beings in general are prone to selfishness and want to satisfy their own needs and desires above all else. Marriage is a special bond that actually requires you to go against that and put the other person's needs first. The reason so many marriages these days fail is not because of all the lame excuses make up like because they've changed, they don't feel the magic anymore, blah blah blah. It's because one or both partners stop putting the other person's needs ahead of their own. The commitment to share your life with someone and always put them first is not something you just make on the wedding day. It's a decision you have to make every day and every moment of your life. All it takes is for you to forget that even for a few moments and seek your own needs first for even something like adultery to happen. Again, I'm not saying this to justify what the woman did. Cheating is wrong wrong wrong! The husband does have the right to leave her now if that's what he feels he needs to do, but the point I'm trying to make is nobody can honestly say they've never had moments where they put their own needs ahead of their significant others needs. You can cheat on your spouse in more ways that sex with another person. You can cheat on him or her by being a workaholic, by wanting to spend all of your time with friends instead of them, or even just by hardly ever giving them any attention simply because you don't feel like it and would rather just do your own thing all the time. Putting your needs ahead of the other person's in a relationship is always wrong, cheating in the form of sex is just perhaps the most extreme form of it.

Then why was devorce rates below 5-10% 50 years ago?

183, That first sentence actually explains why we act the way we do about others infidelity...

"Then why was devorce rates below 5-10% 50 years ago?" Because a divorce was shamefull. Du-uh.

Yeah and way more people took the "til death do us part" line serious. These days those words are so empty at the majority of weddings. People just treat saying those vows as a formality rather than a true heart decision.

211 exactly that! No one takes the vows seriously. They just go through the motions because it's tradition. People today think "well if this marriage doesn't work out we'll just get divorced and marry someone else". Way back when, when you married someone you actually committed to them for life and would work through your problems. I still think it should be like that unless someone cheats on your or abuses you. If you just can't agree on what laundry detergent to buy or where you want to live then too bad, work it out.

Yeah agreed. People do have the ability to work through their problems. A lot of people just don't care enough to because again they never truly took the vows serious and figure it's no big deal to just walk away when things get tough. Nothing worthwhile in this life is always easy.

Exactly my point

Omg an endangered species! Quick, lets circle around to protect him from the penispoachers who will wipe out every ounce of integrity in him.

I agree man totally

What other hints do you know about?

That is by no means a hint. U need to be a frigging psychic to know 'overwork' is code for 'I'm ******* a dude at work'. Wth!

Does anyone else know what the hell nebulous means, of course he didn't catch on that's the freaking point of the comment! she was trying to confess without actually having too come right out and say it.

**** hints, especially if it has to do with cheating? No, just come out with it so the relationship can be done with. It's obvious she didn't care about it.

Because she's a bitch! Wow, gowchick, you say down stupid shit.

I'm not sure how that's relevant to cheating before even being engaged? Also, I see that it's kind of true but I'm also a wedding planner and have not yet dealt with a couple who didn't take the relationship part of marriage seriously...

Even if they weren't engaged they were in a relationship. It's relevant because people treat marriage like it's all fun and games, the way people would during a trip in Vegas. You spend all that money and all that time knowing you're setting up a foundation for your marriage made of quicksand because of infidelity or manipulation. But then you go on down the isle with your fingers crossed. Most expensive mistake ever. It's not about glitz and glamour. It's life.

hang over

Your a special kind of stupid, aren't you

Well then that would just make him look like an ass, who is married to a hoe, and has crabs, I don't see how that would help. He could just get rid of her and find someone else, preferably one who doesn't have crabs.

Whatever, after banging shanks that look like you crabs are inevitable, may as well give them to his ***** wife and sister after he bangs her to.

But then she can turn the tables and take half his shit Ina divorce

Depending on what state one lives in, a divorce is license to take 1/2 the shit no matter what

Why get married in the first place? To do it twice is just plain retarded