By sadface - 03/02/2010 11:58 - France

Today, I found out that I'm not actually pregnant. I've apparently been having a hysterical pregnancy because I want a child so badly. I don't know which was worse, the look of relief on my husband's face or having to send a mass email to inform my family and friends. FML
I agree, your life sucks 33 062
You deserved it 9 164

Same thing different taste

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Aww, that really sucks... I remember having to tell everyone there wasn't a baby (but in my case it was a miscarriage). Have you guys tried a fertility clinic? Also, hysterical pregnancy doesn't mean she's a nutjob. She really wants a baby (and some women who don't experience it, as well) so it's not really weird for her to experience this, if she was hoping for it.

TrekkieGirl 0

@ #1, I agree. OP, why the heck would you have already told family and friends that you're expecting if you clearly hadn't gotten a test done? Most people wait a few months before saying anything. Also, if you're husband is relieved that you are not pregnant, that should tell you he's not ready to have kids. Which you shouldn't ignore! There is more to life than having kids. Find a hobby, because your fixation with having a baby is just unhealthy.

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habesjn 0

This sounds oddly like a tv show that my girlfriend watches. Do you watch Glee? Cuz it's like a word for word copy of the plot of the show I think. But hey, if this is real, I feel bad for you. However, why does your hysteria over children make you attack your husband like that? Men get nervous about kids, whether they want them or not. Stop taking out your frustrations on your perception of your husband's actions.

FML_jk98 0

The Glee storyline is only similar because one of the characters in the show also has a hysterical pregnancy. It's very different though. The character is a stupid/crazy bitch and after she found out her pregnancy wasn't real she never told her husband. She kept the lie going and tried to get a high school couple to give her their baby. Also, the husband really did want the baby and when he finds out that she had been lying he dumps her and ends up with the quirky guidance counselor :). And another thing: there's nothing in the OP's fml that says she in anyway "attacked" her husband. We also don't know if she was pressuring him at all. For all we know she could have been keeping her stress about getting pregnant all to herself and then was so ecstatic when she thought it had finally happened that she wanted to tell everyone. I've heard stories/seen shows about women who are in a position where actually being pregnant in their current situation wouldn't be a very good thing and then they end up having a hysterical pregnancy and don't tell anyone. I think in one she ended up having a "miscarriage". All of these are just assumptions though since we don't really know the whole story, but you shouldn't just bash the OP when you don't know what's going on.

abrasive_punk 0

You totally misunderstood everything this woman was saying. She's not hysterical over children and she didn't take anything out on her husband.

habesjn 0

Thanks for clarifying the plot. But what I meant by attacking her husband is the fact that she thought she was pregnant. When she found out she wasn't, her first two thoughts were "my husband is a bastard for looking relieved" and "I now have to tell everyone that I'm not pregnant." she didn't type out her exact thought about her husband, but I bet she thought something similar to that. That initial hatred towards her husband for "looking relieved" was completely misguided and he didn't deserve that vicious thought directed towards him. She had no idea what he was thinking. But she just assumed he was happy in her misfortune, and for at least that one second, truly hated him for it. And by the way, I completely understood the OP. It's you who didn't understand me.

FML_jk98 0

But what makes you think that she was having vicious thoughts or that she felt hatred towards her husband? Her feelings just might have been hurt by his look of relief. All other stuff aside, if I had to tell my husband I wasn't really pregnant and that the baby I thought we were going to have isn't coming after all, sure I'd be upset. And the look of relief definitely wouldn't make me feel any better. But I definitely wouldn't hate him. I'd allow myself to be upset, get over it, and try again as long as it was something we both wanted. Anyway my point is that I just don't see how you can 100% assume that she hates her husband and she's taking it out on him. And you're welcome.

habesjn 0

Well, she said she didnt know what was worse, seeing the look on her husband's face or telling people. That sounded likea pretty hateful comment towards her husband. But whatever.

tb15 0

You rock for bringing up Glee

drunastunamazing 0

you really don't know anything. maybe the reason he was relieved is because he is not ready. alot of people who are married are not ready because of personal reasons or they are not financially prepared. so sorry to the OP. I feel your pain.

She's not being a selfish bitch. She is going through a stressful time. She was excited at the thought of having a baby and was very upset when she found out that she was in fact, not having a baby at all. I'm sure the look of "relief" on her husband's face really only hurt her feelings. She may be upset, but I'm sure she'll get over it. And you don't know that the husband doesn't want to have children with her, you're just assuming. As I am assuming that he could be scared, like any guy facing the idea of having children to care for, or maybe he feels that he is not financially ready for that commitment. So she's NOT a bitch for being upset about it. I'm sure I would feel pretty shitty if I had to see that look, but I would've gotten over it.

Geez. Take a chill pill. Stop stressing over it so much. You will find when you don't chase after it thats when it will happen. And if anything I would say your husbands life is ****** because your probably putting pressure on him to give you baby batter and getting all moody when nothing happens. Oh and YDI for telling everyone when you didn't wait for the scan. Telling the parents is one thing but telling all your friends as well when your not even 100% sure is just stupid!

Hermyoni 0

Anyone who is stressed out this much that they trick their own body into thinking it's conceived probably shouldn't be having kids in the first place. Why is your motherhood pull so strong? What is missing in your life that you feel incomplete without bearing a child. If having a child was the only important issue why not adopt? I say FYHL for putting this much pressure on him to give your a child.

......You're kidding, right? Some women want to be mothers...and most women want a child born of their own blood, so adoption is a last resort. As long as it's not your uterus the baby is growing in, I fail to see why you think you have the right to give a damn.

icadragoon 11

Bravo, I'm glad someone gets it!

Hermyoni 0

Ever think maybe some people just aren't meant to be mothers and that is why they can't conceive. Or maybe they aren't meant to carry a child. Adoption is always an option. If her husband was relieved most likely the pressure for a baby is all within herself. She should really step back and say hey maybe this isn't meant to be. You never know giving up the control on conceiving might actually make it happen and then if not she could adopt if it is still important to her.

So...being unable to conceive or having difficulty conceiving must mean that you're not cut out to be a mother? That's a big leap of....well, I wouldn't call it logic, I'd call it non-logic.

Shady_R 0

Maybe your husband doesn't want a baby and was only doing it because it meant so much to you. Maybe it's time to reevaluate your relationship with your spouse because bringing a child into a family where it's not wanted is a probably a death wish for you marriage and really unfair to the kid.

go brangilina on his ass and go adopt a black baby

SweetTee 0

I'm sorry to hear this I want a baby badly Also I sometimes show signs of preggo but not to your extent but hopefully we both get our wish soon :-)

CheshireHalli 19

Thank you pendatic. =) OP: I'm sorry about the look of relief on your husband's face... =( FYL.

i understand how u feel i have been there. * success after ttc 3 years *