By karmaplz - 23/02/2011 14:26 - United States

Today, I got a call from the police dept. My ex-boyfriend is applying for a job there, and they called me to ask if he was "a good candidate for a police officer." I had to start my day off by saying great, nice things about the guy who broke my heart and completely disrespected me. FML
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You deserved it 20 681

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karmaplz 3

I feel the need to clear up some of this discussion! First of all--thanks to all these anon. people for defending me. I honestly submitted this immediately after getting the phone call @ 8:30 am, never thinking it'd be posted. Secondly-- is he a bad guy? No. I'm sure if being a cop is what he wants to do, and has his heart in it, he'll do great at his job. As far as the disrespect: it got to a point where I wasn't valued as a person, and some very vulgar, vile, rude and hurtful things were said/done to me, that wouldn't have been done if I was respected for who I am. If I was seen as a human with a heart and feelings, these things wouldn't have been done. Can I say that this will never happen to another female? No. Do I think he's pure evil? No. Saying bad things would have been purely vengeful and ruined a potential career. Also, I wasn't listed a reference, they required names and phone numbers of "significant relationships"--- I was asked if there was ever an assault between us, and about his moral character. That's it. I've had a seriously great laugh over realizing this was actually posted, and loved reading all the comments. Thanks!

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Top comments

Zmeilerr 22

Why didn't you just tell them bad things?

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Sariasprincy 7

As someone who knows a fair amount about the hiring process, you should have told them he was disrespectful. It is NOT grounds for disqualification, but it would give them a realistic idea about who he was. They would talk to him about it, but that doesn't mean they would DQ him. You should have been honest.

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Comments

zzzBOLTzzz 1

If the things you said about him were true, then he deserves the job, since his relationship with you isn't related to the job, but if they weren't true, then you deserve it!

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perdix 29

Maybe now you will like being picked up by the fuzz.

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SirEBC 7

Maybe, but if she didn't like the guy, she should have told them he was a pig.

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perdix 29

I was hoping people had heard that old joke: A guy asks an aging prostitute, "Have you ever been picked up by the fuzz?" And she replies, "No, but I have been swung around by the ****."

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SirEBC 7

And I was hoping that people would make the correlation between cop and pig. Seeing as both of our comments were voted down, I'm guessing that neither of us got what we wanted.. T_T

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purple_sarah88 0

Maybe people got it but just didn't think it was that funny? Shock horror!

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Zebidee 8

Kudos to you for being mature enough to separate the concepts of breaking up with someone from having a bad character. On the other hand, is he freaking mental getting an ex-girlfriend to give a reference?!! 99 times out of 100, that would completely backfire.

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Linnia 12

It isn't his choice. Police departments look up EVERYONE in your life, and then they ask for more people to get references from.

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Sammara 0

Actually, Linnia, they ask you who to call. The military does the same thing. They have no idea who your ex girlfriend was (unless they're stalking you) unless you tell them. Also, if they're using you as a background check reference and not a personal/professional reference, they ask more specific questions than "Would he be good at this?" They ask things like "Has he ever done drugs? Is there anything to blackmail him for? Has he ever exhibited violent tendencies?" It's pretty clear the ex put her down as a personal reference.

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ravenmccoy 0

Yea, this would have been your perfect chance!! You so should have told them shitty things

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mrjude 3

Uhm, no you didn't... You could've said whatever you wanted. Stop complaining... Nobody forced you to say nice things.

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RogueZomby 1

you could have said no to them and make him not get the job

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SirEBC 7

Eh, he's not really an idiot for putting her down, as she actually told them good things. He may have known that she would have stayed objective regardless of what happened.

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AyeeLaurie 0

As long as you tell them the truth, I say its all good?!. At least you had th will power to say something nice about him.

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Roxxay 6

you did the right thing, but it still sucks :( but at least, they'll tell him what you said an maybe he then feels bad about losing you because you obviously are so nice and caring :)

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