Haha #23

haha 23.

I.would.be.pissed. But sure, suggesting doing something 'different' is a good idea, as the person who suggested all the outdoors sports did. Men (in general) tend to communicate better while they're doing things, while women want to talk face-to-face with little to no distractions. (Course, women are great multi-taskers but they [generally] do that to save time - serious convos? top priority). I think the restaurant is a good idea - it's public enough to where you can't act like a jackass if you don't like what the other person has to say and it's got enough people to where they're all concentrating on their OWN convos and not eavesdropping on yours. I learned the hard way that some super-private place translates into 'let's ****' or 'no one will hear you scream'. I've learned that some ac tivity being done gives room for the excuse, 'let's just enjoy teh evening'. Tell them NOW? When you're emotional and all that? Not really right, they'll want t come back ag ain, and again, and a again later. If you thought it out - you're ready and they're not and they're cornered and defensive. It's a hard balance to make. Sounds like OP at least meant well and maybe next time it should be some alcohol-free but relaxed place where they can actually talk. Going for walks works for me. *shrugs*

Wow sorry to hear, but you should divorce girl.

When you go out next time, avoid any alcohol intake.

This is such bullshit. If that guy had been fat instead of an alcoholic, half the people here would be saying that it was because of his parents or something. Alcoholism, like obesity, is a disease. If you don't treat it, you're not going to get better.

"...and work on our failing marriage... He got drunk and puked on me." those things seem to fit together... funny how that is. he'll never change, get rid of him before he wastes more of your life. I can't stand drunks.

#37-Just because he drank too much and vomitted doesn't mean he is an alcoholic. A lot of people just drink too much and vomit, shit (or in this case vomit) happens. That really sucks that he vomitted on you, but good for you for trying to fix your marriage, at least you tried to do something nice lol. As someone else said...maybe if you guys go out again, take him somewhere, where theres no alcohol. Just incase.

if you want you can go out with me and i'll get drunk and act a fool and then you can appreciate your husband more...$1000 dollars plus you buy the drinks and I'm game

Sounds like you guys need marriage counseling instead of a night out on the town. That's not what made your marriage work in the first place, it's not going to fix it now.