Not the women anyhow. Male strippers tend to have a different mindset.

In my time, I knew many who did do it just for the enjoyment. But then, there are ones that certainly just do it because they need money. The fact that his wife kept it a secret shows that she most likely didn't like doing it and wanted to forget.

Wrong. It depends on the place and the person, but I know women who choose to be strippers because they love the job. If I was a little more comfortable with my body (working on that) and lived somewhere there was a demand, I would love to work as a stripper. I would find it fun.

I disagree 13

why? Because he recognized someone from a strip club who just happened to be married to an employee?

No, because he called her out in public instead of acting like a gentleman and keeping his mouth shut. Given the social stigma attached to being a stripper, it was just downright disrespectful for him to bring it up.

Nothing in life is free, and women are the most powerful money reducing agent known. Somehow OP will be paying in full for those dances.

I can see why she didn't want her husband to know. When a woman strips, even for a short time just because she needs to, it's hard to find a guy who will understand without it turning into him wanting to peruse her for the wrong reasons. I have seen it many times. This is not to say that all guys will see her only in this light after she admits it, but rather that it is a valid fear. Once they were married or even before, she should have trusted him enough to tell him.

"Girls-Girls-Girls"

Because people have a right to privacy in their private lives. A professional like an employer should also not partake in the act of discussing private, sexual aspects of other peoples pasts with any employee or person close to their employees, as a matter of good business ethic. That being said, in a healthy relationship, honesty and trust, are elemental components, and their withholding in this situation could be a breach. Why do you assume the worst of this situation though? Is it not reasonable that the wife was ashamed of what she had to do? If it was fear of that shame crashing down on her that kept her quiet, then what loving husband wouldn't forgive her? Do you really judge people based on their past circumstances, on who they were, rather than who they ARE? You know nothing about this woman other than the fact that she kept part of her past hidden, so how do you come into this with the audacity to pass imediate judgement? Are you some kind of super being the likes of which the earth has never seen, who has never once made a mistake they wouldn't want others to know if they could help it?

Would you be happy if a stripper you met in a club called you out in front of your wife? Let me tell you, we know you are a different person outside the club. How bout that stripper you tried to finger lets your wife in on the secret?

nahh i agree with the first comment if she really loved him she would be able to be straight up wit him . and if he really loves her he would understand. its not the bosses fault for her past.

You don't need to write a novel for a comment.

tl;dr

"women's failures"????? this was not a failure - she successfully put herself through college and who says it makes her less likely to be "sexually loyal"? where did you dig up that nugget of data?

I am not arguing whether or not she "should have" told him about a previous job she held in college. That would depend on whether or not they were together at the time (if they were, then she should have told him) and if she ever actually lied about it. If she wasn't actually having sex with her clients, and she wasn't lying to a significant other about her occupation at the time then I don't consider that "sexual past". But that's just my opinion. Your logic, however, is flawed. You are using a man pretending to be taller in order to get laid as an example. This would be similar to a girl wearing a push-up bra, both are actively deceiving someone they are currently trying to have sex with. That is completely different from failing to mention something that happened in the past and doesn't change who she actually is now.

I completely agree with you. Double standards for situations like this are completely acceptable. Also, love how you took the time to write a long comment. I don't get why that's treated as such a negative thing. I find that much of feminism is similar to the situation which you were talking about above. Either total equality or traditional gender roles or a more specific equal social contract. You can't pick and choose about such things.

26- You sound like a fifteen year old. Your argument is inane and loops in on itself in some ways. The idea you were portraying was so simple it could've been summed up in one or two sentences in a concise manner. "Withholding information is wrong, whether you are male or female." Is essentially what you took four poorly constructed paragraphs to write. Your aggressive tone, almost belittling of those you address, combined with your lacking phrase structure and weak, flat analogies, leave your argument, and comment, dead in the water. In summary, I'm sure I've had morning gas as articulate.