Sorry but i can't understand the logic behind combining virgins without any idea what they are doing, and romance. 90 % of all virgin men are either too nervous or have no real idea of what they are doing, so they won't last that long, some even don't get it up bc of nervousness. Most women are too nervous too and dry, may laying there like a log. Not really funny. Next is, at most weddings alcohol is common, so he, she or both are drunk, not really helping. I don't say, be a **** before wedding, but i personally prefer men with experience, and at last someone that knows which hole is the right one. I'd never ever be ashamed of my experiences before wedding, that's how i found out what i like and dislike. Imagine your Husband needs to choke you to get turned on, even if you hate it...Thats not a good base for a long lasting marriage... Just for all the dreaming princesses out there =)

A watershed moment to let you know you can expect him to continually ignore boundaries and lie to you for years to come. You don't just "accidentally" **** someone in the ass. It actually takes effort. Sorry you had to find out after the wedding, but honestly, this isn't a surprise considering the toxicity that surrounds so much of virginity culture (if everything sexual is viewed as equally taboo and sinful, there's no line to illustrate the difference between sexual pleasure and coercion/rape for the ignorant or inexperienced). At the very least y'all should have been talking about this beforehand even if you decided not to actually have sex do until after marriage. Good luck and Godspeed.

No way he was a virgin, OP.

If he did that knowingly, that is rape, because it's not the kind of sex you consented to

Plus, guys are generally nervous when they put it in the first time. They don't just try to stab you with their dick when it's time to have sex. & did he keep going after he got it in? because if he kept going after you clearly wanted him to stop, that's a different story as well.

He did know.

So, basically he had sex in an area that you didn't like without your explicit permission and tried to cover it up as "He didn't know which hole?" That's shady as **** and I think you need to ditch him. There's absolutely NO way to mix up the anus and the vaginal opening, even as a virgin.

American Sex education in a nut shell Or a dumb ass who just wanted anal for any reason

In his defense...I made the same mistake my first time. And in my defense, my sex-ed classes were not that comprehensive, and my father did NOT have the talk with me despite what he told my mother. And that's why I will always argue in favor of more comprehensive sex-ed classes.

impossible to accidently slip into ass. its difficult to get it into the ass if its the first time. debunked and fake af