By aireeahna - 09/06/2014 02:42 - United States - Cedar Rapids

Today, I'm 5 weeks pregnant and just found out that my boyfriend has such a phobia of holding babies, that he's going to be the one most in need of a diaper change when I give birth. FML
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aireeahna 23

Op here. So to start off I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. The issue never really came up over the years because we were never really around babies, he is really good with children so I just assumed that he was good with babies as well. When it did come up we were at his little brother's graduation party. I was holding a cousins newborn baby and asked him to hold him so that I could go to the bathroom but instead of taking the baby he backed away from me almost stumbling over his own feet because he was in such a hurry to get out of the situation. I asked his mother what his problem was and she just said that he has always been scared to hold babies since his brother was born. I have yet to tell him that we are expecting because our 5 year anniversary is at the end of this month and I wanted to tell him while we're on vacation. The baby is obviously unplanned but I don't regret getting pregnant and I'm sure that my boyfriend will be just as happy as I am with the news. The only other person who knows right now is my best friend who is due in September and she is going to let him practice hold the baby so that he'll be more comfortable but until then I think we'll stick to dolls and toddlers :p

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Top comments

markcallanan_ 20

Try to teach him??

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EmeraldMoonshine 21

Maybe he's scared of dropping it on accident..?

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MAD01502 20

Therapy helps.. But i believe that he will feel differently about his own child

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Adam5858 17

That would have been one to tell in advance.Go to a pshyciologist

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pitapizzaparty 18

You idiot... She said she JUST found out shes 5 months -_-t how is she supposed to tell him in advance if she just found out herself?!

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Adam5858 17

Him to tell her he dosent like to hold babies you twat

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RayneSmytson 24

5 weeks, not 5 months. They have plenty of time.

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cat0720 9

YOU idiot, she said she just found out that he was afraid of holding babies, and also he should have told her in advance that he has this phobia.

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foxwasalamb 24

probably something you should have talked about before you got pregnant?

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Adam5858 17

What i said in comment before but i get minus votes.logic

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Lil_Red777 21

Not all pregnancies are planned. A lot aren't actually.

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RedPillSucks 31

'Tis so true. It always amazes me how people can say "How did this happen?"

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mageepaigeee44 15

Plus he could have this fear and still want to have a child and a family. So it could have been a planned pregnancy. Also, maybe he just realized he had this fear very recently.

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foxwasalamb 24

yes, pregnancies aren't planned always, but if you're being sexually active with someone i would assume you would talk about if your partner got pregnant and how you would go about that. just my opinion

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jr_mtz01 7

nowadays there are so many options to prevent pregnancies, were talking about condoms, pills, shots, UID, patches, and so on! so having a child is a cause of irresponsibility and childish actions from both parties! abd she shouldn't be having babies with a BOYfriend to begin with!

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Lil_Red777 21

@126 you are incredibly ignorant, condoms break, birth control is never 100%. And honestly who the Hell are you to tell someone who they can or can't have a baby with?

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Britt125 16

Well he has several months to get used to the idea of holding a baby, and I'm sure once he sees his baby he'll want to hold them even if it terrifies him. I'm sure it'll be okay.

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umerin 32

I'm sure he'll get used to it quickly. All the best with your pregnancy. :)

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miggles 16

I feel him Babies are disgusting creatures

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meli1195 31

Are you sure you didn't mean that miggles are disgusting creatures? Seriously though, that's a very rude thing to say to someone who is pregnant.

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zandalee 19

Congrats OP! There are some fabulous lifelike dolls you can teach him with and you do have quite a while before you're due... Good luck.

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worldclassrager 39

Get him a doll that might help ween him off his fear or try parenting classes

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khaled_almu 13

If he afraid to hold the babes u can teach him, but if he has a phobia it's impossible.

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Lil_Red777 21

It's not impossible to get over a phobia. And a phobia is a fear. Seriously some of these comments are ridiculous...

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RedPillSucks 31

^What she said... Also, people misuse "phobia" very often as an exaggeration

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Brandi_Faith 33

67, they misuse it way too much in my opinion! That, and everybody has a "severe case" of practically everything. Some haven't even seen a doctor for their issue but they know it's a phobia, not a fear, or they know their condition (anxiety let's say) is severe, not mild or regular. Don't label things if you don't actually know or haven't seen a doctor about it.

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mageepaigeee44 15

Agreed. I hate when people are like "I have an irrational fear of spiders" or something like that. That's not and irrational fear.. Plus, as someone who actually has an irrational fear I know the difference between having a serious fear and just being scared of something

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z0mBi3kiTTy 18

I was terrified of babies. trust me, he will learn how to change a diaper real fast! and hold his baby! hopefully he is supportive and let's you sleep for 6 consecutive hours the first few weeks! congrats and good luck!

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