agreed! Good parents do things to make sure you're on your toes.

A good parent would have warned her before hand instead of assuming that she will make one final check. _______________________________ www.myspace.com/rapid99

but thats the point the mom was making. You HAVE TO DOUBLE CHECK

well, let us know how it works our for you when your "good parent" mom puts slides of "babies first kiss" in your first work presentation to keep you on your toes. Perhaps she purposly tries to hit you every time you cross the street to "remind you to look both ways"? I hope she doesn't put razors in your Halloween candy to make certain you were listening about the "candy from stranger's too". hope those parenting skills of fu@#ing with yoru childrens shit/lives works well for you!

Lol a bit extreme, but thank you Ian, my point exactly ___________________________________ www.myspace.com/rapid99

My parents did stuff like that to me. Now I pay attention to detail and use common sense. My parents rarely had to tell me something twice. in fact double checking my work was something they instilled in me, and I always had straight A's. Which got me scholarships and now I'm in school for free. I hope your parent's life lessons worked as well for you.

While it's admirable that they wanted to help you and it worked, it obviously doesn't help the sent 5,000 word assignment that the OP had. In fact, while she might check her work more often, she doesn't have the knowledge or thought-put that her mom had, so unless her mom want's to check more often for her, then the assignment will most likely still retain the same quality. _____________________________ www.myspace.com/rapid99

But her work in the future should be flawless. =]

What would you base that on? Her mom made corrections that she saw deemed fit and said to always double check The OP will double check her work on her own standards, not her mom's so unless her mom helps again, then she will most likely miss the things that her mom saw wrong. And while you can say that she can just learn from the mistakes, it would only be those and she wouldn't be able to expand that knowledge into other mistakes. So yeah, it didn't help her 5,000 word project and it doesn't help her. _____________________________________ www.myspace.com/rapid99

My mom also made me volunteer at the hospital every Friday when we had half day. Thsi led me to have all the service hours necessary to graduate high school AND helped me get my first job at the hospital. That eventually led to the career I'm in now. I'm happy she took such an interest in our lives.

Her mom didn't make corrections. She wrote a paragraph telling her to pay attention to details. Anyone who reads over their work would have caught that pretty quickly. The OP is clear about the fact that her mom told her to check her work all the time.

That has nothing to do with a writing assignment. And secondly she most likely talked about any mistakes that she made up to page 11 atleast. I'm not saying she deleted words or what not, but she still brought them to an attention. _____________________________ www.myspace.com/rapid99

Her mom didn't correct anything, she just added something and op never re-read her paper to check. Now she knows to look over her paper. That is the lesson her mom wanted her to know, and that's the lesson she learned. Her mom wasn't correcting anything specific within essay. idkweird, my parents made me join the swim team and it took up my life, but I also got scholarships from that. I am very thankful to my parents.

weird idkweird wrote what I wrote at the same time. And yes she brought that to her attention. Would she be a crappy mom if she told her that there was toilet paper stuff to her shoe? Or should op just figure that out on her own.

I think a lot of people resent their parents while going through it all, but I think if you have good parents, you learn to appreciate all those things that drove you nuts at the time. I think my mom did pretty well with me, and I was an undiagnosed ADHD kid, lol. She def dealt with a lot of crap with me, but ultimately, the fact that she was so involved made the difference. Also, I'm one of 6 kids, and every single one got that same attention.

I would hope that she does not add more toilet paper to the OP's shoe, which is exactly what this was. She added her corrections/statement of mistakes/whatever you want to call it on the actual paper, without saying anything. She could have warned OP that she will do that or at least go over it with the OP. She took a risk not knowing when it was due and assuming OP would proof-read, and she failed. As I said it is admirable that she cared about OP's work, but she still took action when she should have given a heads-up. ___________________________________ www.myspace.com/rapid99

no one said it wouldn't if they didn't

As another poster mentioned, the OP might have checked the essay over multiple times before the mother wrote in that paragraph. She might have gone over every minute detail, making sure everything was perfect. In my experience, once you do that, and save a file on a computer, nothing will change about it unless someone goes in there and actively changes it. So the OP may have believed that yes, she did do many check-overs of her work. Who expects their mother to go in and sabotage a paper? Yes, sabotage. If she is failed because of the mother's added paragraph, that 5,000 word essay may be a large part of a grade. The teacher may not let her make it up. So she'll get a permanent lower grade in that class, which will follow her, possibly ruining a scholarship or academic status. She completely does not deserve that for not taking one more look over a saved file that should not have changed since the last time she read it. Helping someone learn an important lesson should not be done in such a malicious manner as this. If anything, she should have told her daughter before the paper was turned in.

What, good parents deliberately do things to stuff up their kids marks?? A 'good parent' would tell their kid about what they added BEFORE they submitted it. What she did was just plain nasty.

#72 - Printers screw up all the time. I have seen printers screw up margins (which were graded when I went through school). I have seen printers double print a page. I have seen printers leave a page off. After printing, the OP should have looked over the final project. Adding a paragraph would have changed the length of the paper, and I would probably have noticed the change in length. I always did a read through after printing because I usually caught a spelling or grammatical error. Spell check doesn't catch everything, so a full read through right before turn in is a good idea. 99% of the time I would catch a "to" where it should have been a "too" or some other misused homophone on a read through after I printed it out. 20 minutes for the read through, 10 minutes to locate and correct the errors, and 5 minutes to reprint and reorganize my papers was all the time it took. IF the paper was a major grade, 35 minutes was well spent making sure I had everything right.

that was suposed to be in responce to #20. Also that is really messed up. FYL indeed. You'll have to comment and let us know if you're grade suffered because of it.

#64 was supposed to be a reply to 49... not sure why that keeps happening to me. Either FML is Fing with my L or I am just a fucktard.

I thought you sounded bitter. But just to let you know, I never insulted you.

I am actually not bitter at all. I just think it is a shitty way to attempt to raise your children by making them have to be "on their toes" at all times. Part of life is that it is a learning process on its own. I don't feel parents should try to Shanghai their kids to teach them lessons, or ruin their grades to bring home a point. Of course we are all entitled to our opinions. and to clarify; my mother was fantastic in what she was able to do to raise me on her own... she just was overprotective and never taught me shit about responsibility. Very Very often children will rebel against parents wishes, more so when that parent tries that much harder to enforce "lessons". I am glad your life is working out well for you! I hope it continues to do so even after school (when the real fun begins... that was sarcasm by the way). I just don't agree with you... nothing personal.

I am not arguing that a parent that doesn't believe in this method is bad, but that doesn't make her bitch because she has unconventional teaching methods. My husbands mother never took that much of and interest and he is very smart and responsible. We have very opposite parents but turned out very similar.