By draegoncode - 26/07/2010 04:34 - France

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Today, I told my girlfriend of 2 years that I was sexually abused as a kid. She was only the third person I've told. She reacted by breaking up with me because I "might do something" to her kids. FML
I agree, your life sucks 70 615
You deserved it 4 526

Same thing different taste

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FFML_314 11

Abuse is a horribly traumatic thing to endure at any point in your life. I'm sorry OP that you had to go through that. I hope the person that hurt you is rotting in jail or in hell. I have 0 tolerance for abusers. I hate people that make excuses for someone that's abusive. You shouldn't be able to walk this earth if you allow such evil to escape from your body! I have dealt with so many sex offenders and it makes me sick to think about the things these people would do. Your girlfriend is obviously being insensitive, but she may just be scared.

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dickster 0

bhop, its rapist and thats about as far as I read of your posts. At least spell shit right when you're being serious. But what's with your "homicidal mindset"? By my book, and by the way a jury's and judge's too, murderers are at the same level as molesters, pedifiles and rapists. So, you would end someones life because they did something utterly wrong? Would you like someone to kill you for your hypothetical murders? I think not. You do not decide when a person's LIFE should end. P.S. ABORTION IS WRONG!!!!! IT IS MURDER!!!!!

FFML_314 11

Uhm, it's pedophiles not pedifiles. LOL! That was a major fail on your end.

dickster 0

FFML, then I wasn't being serious. Haha just kidding, but oh damn you're right! That's what I get for getting 3 hours of sleep last night/this morning and staying up until 1am-undetermined.

dickster 0

Wow FFML, you have an epic hatred for sex offenders. You say you've worked with them, but wouldn't you're passionate hatred get in the way of that? (Poorly worded comments ftw)

FFML_314 11

No. A. I don't let my feelings interfere with my work, ever. B. My hatred is not passionate hatred. C. I'm not a violent/mean or vicious person. D. I don't work with sex offenders anymore.

CtrlF12 0

FFML_314, according to your profile you're 21. I'm not sure with what capacity you worked with offenders, but given your age it clearly could not have been that long of a commitment, especially for you to become an expert in the area. All the facts you posted can be found in any sex-abuse-survivor pamphlet at a high school's counseling center. Another thing that concerns me is how engrossed you are in the subject. I understand if it's a job you are passionate about it. I understand since you claim to be an abuse survivor you are passionate about it. However, you might want to seek counseling since this particular text message struck a nerve causing you to write a disproportionate number of comments compared to the other text messages you've commented. Also, since you supported the view that sex abuse survivors are more likely to act out the abuse on children, maybe you should change your icon to something other than a toddler girl?

So FFML.. since u were a molested as a child.. does that mean u too are gonna become a child molester? does it mean ur boyfriend, if u have one, should dump ur ass because ure gonna molest ur own children? does that mean u dont deserve to be loved and have the chance to redeem urself? just bcuz some asshole decide to mark ur life in such a way... that people discriminate against u... I have never been molested, so i dont undestand the pain it may cause, and i hope me or my children never have to go through that, but still people should feel compassion for them, and the girlfriend couldve gone to therapy with him, analyze him better, now knowing his past, talked to him about how this has affected him, try to investigate.. of course her reaction was not based on reason, but on emotions.. and emotions on kids she doesnt have, kids she doesnt even know she can have.. this so far on the future, that she cant control if her next boyfriend or husband will be a secret child molester.. so no, her decision was nothin but emotional and selfish... and though i do not have children, i have a baby brother that is the closest thing i can have, and there are different ways to secure ur children, like no letting a man bathe them, putting cameras, not letting them sleep in house that are not ur own, not leaving them alone in a room with another person, male or female, because we do have to remember, that not only are males molesters, but also women abuse of children.. and if u had been around molesters for about 6 years like u said, u should know that they are not they only human beings being abused, since u urself were abused and are not abusive of other... and u should know that there are other factors that come with it, like the reaction they got from their parents, like if they went to counseling and therapy, like if they could ever let that anger go, like if the abuser paid justice or escaped, like if they EVER told anyone... and OP im sorry... i dont think she should go to hell and to **** her.. i hope u can move on and learn that although they are bitchy women, there a women who are gonna be understanding, and just be glad that u were liberated of a relationship like that, because she wouldve never been able to over come it.. i just hope this doesnt change ur confidence and trust in women, and hope that u soon find someone that will treat u like u deserve and be understanding of the past u didnt choose to live :) XOXOXO to everyone!

dickster 0

Are you a psychoanalyst or something of the sort? You obviously have a white collar job by your sophisticated verbiage. I find it hard to not mix feelings with an obligation of any sort, so kudos(however it's spelled) to you.

I don't see how one's writing syntax is indicative of the type of job he or she possesses...

I too have been abused for 2 years. I don't ever want to do that to a child. those sort of people are sick. I hope she gets aids.

dickster 0

caleb, it's usually prompted by the molesters own experience. Blame the man who first came up with and initiated child molestation. But I feel terrible for you  and am happy you are empathetic.

I'm sorry, OP. Sadly there's some twisted other side to this. I'm a woman that was pretty roughly sexually abused as a child. I never sought therapy, and nothing ever came to justice-- but did people think I'd molest their kids? No. Not that I ever would, mind you. I have three beautiful kids of my own, and my goal is to assure that they never have to experience the things I did. Sadly, you being a man, people will assume harder than they would on me for some reason. And it's silly-- you're taking all the proper steps I never did, but due to gender, you're the scary one. It's a sad thing, and I'm really sorry. People keep jumping on the "most abusers were abused." What about all of the abused that nobody knows about that never do a damn thing wrong? It's sad, and while I can understand her protective nature, I can't agree that her response was 100% logical.

drularter 0

what a ****!! you can do way better.

Oh God, how horrible! I hope you'll be okay...