Abuse is horrible, truly it is. I was abused as a child and I know that I would never do anything like that to any child. I babysit all the time and I would never touch them! Instead I hope that no person in this world touches them and scars them for the rest of their lives. I hope that they get to live a normal life, unlike me. It's been over 7 years since I was raped but it still haunts me daily. I would never wish that kind of a life on anyone either. I've only told a few people myself but I've been lucky to have them be supportive. That in it self gives me hope to one day tell my family. I hope the OP never gives up hope. This girl doesn't deserve him and this girl will get what is coming to her one day. I hope that one day she learns that just because someone is abused doesn't mean they will abuse another! In my experience, it makes a person less likely to abuse someone because they know how much it messed them up and they don't want to do that to another person. Yes, some people who are abused will abuse another but some people who are not abused will abuse another too. It was unfair and insensitive of her to break up with him over this. If she truly cared about him, even just as a person or a friend, she would have been there to help him recover. OP will find someone who loves him and who will help him through his life-long journey of healing from the abuse. Anyone who agrees with the girlfriend here needs to learn more about it. Those who agree with the girlfriend should talk to someone who has been abused, to learn more about the issue, to hear a story first hand from a friend who has been abused. It will most likely change your opinion. If it doesn't, then you are just as horrible as the girlfriend. I am lucky to have a very supportive boyfriend who knows about the abuse and holds me when I cry and have panic attacks about it. And he looks forwards to being the father of my children someday. He knows and understands that abuse is a horrible thing. He also knows that I would never touch a child or hurt a child in anyway. He knows that I will worry that a stranger might hurt them or touch them and he knows that he is going to have to help me let go as my children get older and he's going to have to help me not freak out and worry all the time about them. I'm going to educate my children on the subject and tell them my story. I'm going to make sure they know they can come to me if someone touched them and they didn't feel comfortable with them. I'm going to make sure they know that I would support them with whatever they decided to do if that happened. I choose to stay quiet and 7 years later I'm not sure if that was the right choice or not. But I do know that I'm going to do everything in my power to make sure my children never have to experience what I have. Because of the abused I have PTSD, I have panic attacks, insomnia, trust issues, etc. I want my children to grow up safe, normal, and unafraid. I don't want them to be scared every day when they wake up like I am. To the OP: I am here if you ever need to talk about anything. It hurts when the person you trust most hurts you, especially over something you had no control over. I am so sorry you were abused and I am so sorry she dumped you over that. You deserve better and you will get better. I'm really glad you are healing though...I admire you for being strong enough to get help. I wish you only the best. We, of all people, deserve to be happy and to find happiness. Best of luck! ^^

Wow what a BIOTCH!!!!! But seriously she's a bitch.

your girl is a bitch and seems to be ignorant - she was with you for 2 years and you'd figure she'd trust you by then. **** it dude... move on - if it was me - id probably be sitting in a jail cell for domestic violence.

Shit she's a bitch !!! my friend went through something like that and he most definately will never be a sexual offender , and I don't think you will be either!!

That's terrible. Shoot the damn bitch. AFTER she has Kids. Then kill them, too. Wait! Shoot her kids, and make sure she's watching. Then kill the broad. Yeah. Jigsaw is awesome.

Ok, so lemme understand this. She thinks that just because you were a victim of something horrible, that you are going to commit the same offense. Hmm, in that case everyone in the world is screwed in the relationship department. We might as well all stay single. How many people just on this site alone have been yelled at, degraded, hit, neglected, or mistreated by someone while growing up? I'm pretty sure most have. But I'm also pretty sure that they aren't all abusers because of what they had to go through. The problem here is that the g/f doesn't realize that ALL abusers have a mental instability of some form. And sometimes nothing triggers it, while with others some form of abuse sets it off. Every person deals with at least one traumatic thing in their life at some point. Only those who are mentally healthy can walk away unscathed. They may deal themselves or go to therapy, but in the end....they handle it and move on with their lives. Some even become activists for the particular cause. But in a small percentage, when something happens, their brain can't process the way a healthy one does. There is too much ignorance in this world and so many people get hurt because of it. My fiance was abused as a child and he dealt with what happened and learned he wasn't to blame and that the other person was in the wrong and was sick. He is wonderful with our children, VERY protective of them, but wonderful none the less. You will find someone someday that will love you for you and not for what happened to you. Keep faith!

then she obviously doesn't deserve you

that's so ****** up. what a stupid bimbo bitch! that's happened to me... 0-0 not the sexualy abused part. the dumb bitch part. I told her I was bipolar because we made a promise not to lie....

oh and 49 can SHUT HER ******* **** ASS MOUTH!!! D:<

#185 u r the smartest of us all. I want you to know... that ur muh best friend