I can sympathise, people can be very weird about the whole children thing. I suppose because it's such a massive, life-impacting thing to do people feel a bit threatened by the idea of another equally valid way of living their life. I'm undecided about whether I want children or not, for some reason people seem to think this means 'I am just kidding myself that I have a choice, I will definitely want children in the future and totally want to hear your input on this'.

I feel you. It's surprising how society still pressures people into having partners/children. Some people immediately try to "figure out" what is wrong with you when you say you want to stay single or mention you don't want kids. Not to mention people who get angry at you when you say you don't want kids... You can clearly see the frustration they have. They thought having a family is an obligation, something expected and just how things are. So they think you shouldn't have the freedom to choose not to have kids because they think they didn't have it.

She's partially right

It isn't any of their ******* business if you have kids or not. You don't want kids? You take measures to not have them, and have a plan of action in mind if a pregnancy occurs in any relationship you have. You don't owe them grand kids, and you aren't heartless for disliking kids. There are too many humans on Earth as it stands, and considering the state of the world and all the things that are projected to go catastrophically wrong within the next hundred or so years, adding more people that would have to live through that sounds morally dubious. If they have issues with you not being a space to the genetic drive to reproduce, they can make their own bloody attempts at it and see if they can have another child. Especially since it sounds like they want you to have children so they can do the "fun" parts of child rearing without having to put forth any actual care of effort.

"How could you be so heartless" - Akon

I THOUGHT THAT SAID CHICKEN

That's ******* bullshit- Heartless people have children all the time (my mother is a perfect example). Reproduction isn't the only path to a fulfilling life and it's certainly not a duty or obligation. Decisions like these are up to you and your partner. It's no one else's business and it's way out of line for someone to guilt you, judge you or punish you because your values aren't the same as theirs. If your parents nag you in the future as to why you don't have children yet, tell them it's because you're heartless.

Not making a judgement on how you feel about kids, you still deserve this. You should know your parents well enough to know how they feel about grandkids in the future. So having this conversation, especially unless cornered into it, brings the reaction you got. If you don't want those conversations, don't provide the catalyst for them.

I said the same thing for years, now I want to right all the wrongs my parents did with my own children, when I'm not 20 of course.

People who try to coerce others into having kids just because it's the thing to do are heartless.