By BeforeItWasCool - 30/09/2012 09:30 - United Kingdom
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BeforeItWasCool
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Wow this seems to have been misinterpreted! It was unplanned, I was entirely surprised by it. We hadn't planned on kids- if it had been positive it would have been an accident. I was just quite happy to have such a nice surprise even if it did turn out to be negative. I was quite disappointed it was negative, not because I've been secretly trying to get pregnant, but because I was pleasantly surprised. It just seems my fiancé was a little too enthusiastic about the negative result.
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WrongRomance
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I wouldn't want a baby if my partner didn't. Don't trap him just because 4 years seems like enough time to you. You should discuss both of your wants and opinions on having a child (you obviously haven't before) and if it's that big of a deal to have a child right now, perhaps he isn't a suitable partner fpr you, nor you a suitable partner for him. Be glad it was negative, if he didn't want that serious of a relationship you may have ended up separating and becoming a single mother.
Don't get married to the guy. His values don't match yours and nothing is going to change that. You could've had a kid with a guy that will be a terrible or absent father.
Just because he's not ready now doesn't mean he doesn't want kids ever. Maybe he's not ready to share you with someone just yet
Maybe he's happy you are not pregnant now, because he likes trying to get pregnant?!?
zpa127
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ahahaha. but that was dickish of him
Babies are a two person decision. If you don't take his feelings into account he will more than likely be your ex at some point in time. Sex doesn't mean he loves you, and a baby wont make him stay.
The_F3rris
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The world is over populated anyway.
robert76
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Yeah, you need to understand that that has a huge effect on his life too. Hoping for a pregnancy without even talking to him about it shows you have no regard for your fiance's desires. That makes you a real jerk when talking about a life-changing thing like this. YDI for sure.
Sorry to hear that
Obviously OP's fiancé hasn't seen that guy code where they say never show any sign o happiness when your girlfriend's pregnancy test is positive :D
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If he's your fiancé for four years, that means he's still not ready to commit. A baby would probably force him to marry you, something he's been avoiding for years.
^Nailed it. From the wording of the FML, it seems like OP wants to get pregnant without her fiancee's consent. And if that's true, what the hell is wrong with you OP?! Just because you have a "strong relationship" doesn't mean he wants kids. Furthermore, if he doesn't want kids and you do, do NOT get married to him. Those irreconcilable differences.